Well, here is a pretty sensitive and delicate post, guys and gals…waxing!

20 years ago, not many people ever heard the term, “Brazilian wax.” For many baby-boomers, we have missed this trend. Fellas, I am here to encourage you to STRONGLY lobby the little woman to consider this.

For the truly naive, a Brazilian wax is not a “bikini” wax that takes off the surrounding pubic hair, but takes ALL the hair off of the area. For many women, it equates to more than simply an “ounce of pain.” as the waxing process is not pain-free. Unlike many guys, I actually have had a small waxing procedure done on my eyebrows so I know first hand how much this process hurts (although my experience is probably only 10% of what my wife goes through). Enough of how painful this is, let’s talk about the upside!

First of all, I can tell you that the quality of my wife’s orgasms has easily doubled. The QUANTITY of her orgasms has easily increased 200% or more and we can thank the Brazilian wax process for a large part of this. Removing her pubic hair makes her entire region infinitely more sensitive and at first we had to pace ourselves because her orgasms were quicker and uncontrollable. With some patience and experience, we have been able to bring them on as often as we’d like without any loss of intensity.

For me, all I can tell you is that the experience of going down as increased immeasurably. No longer do I get symptoms of “nature’s dental floss” when I am practicing being a cunning linguist. I always enjoyed “dining at the Y” but now, I relish in it as often as possible.

I could go on, but need to keep the blog R rated for now…for more details on how to make your wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Hey guys, I travel quite a bit and always look for new and exciting things to do to keep my wife hot and our love affair steamy. I gotta tell you, sometimes I can use a BREAK! Ever since I unlocked this vixen, she has been wearing me out day after day….rough life! However, just because I am out of town for a week, doesn’t mean I can just recharge my batteries and expect her to be hot and ready upon my return. A female mind and body is NOT wired like ours! I have plenty of scientific and step by step strategies to make your wife hot outlined in my book and below are some ideas to compliment that book, make your love life tingle and make your sex life SCREAM!

1. When you are out of town, be sure to text message her often. Sometimes we cannot say what we think ou loud…some “pure” women are truly embarrassed by dirty talk. However, when you text her, it is one-way communication and it takes any uncomfortable feeling out of the picture. Try it! You’ll be surprised by the naughty text messages you will get back!

2. Shop for her. You don’t have to spend a ton of money, but be sure to bring her back something, even if she is not a “gift” type of woman. She will appreciate that you were thinking of her when you were away.

3. Leave her a note, card, or other reminder hidden in the house. When you are away and it’s been a day or two, she will find your note or card and it will not only reminder of how sweet you are, but show her that you are thinking of her OFTEN!

For more ideas, advice, and simple strategies to get the lust back in your life, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

OK guys, we’ve all heard that women need to feel loved in order to HAVE sex and men have sex in order to feel loved. Sounds trite, right?

WRONG!

Most women are wired this way. There is a clear, one-way path to getting sex and LOTS OF IT!

You have to make your wife feel special, loved, admired, respected, adored, and secure. You don’t have to do all of these all of the time (That would seem psychotic!). However, you have to patiently create these feelings in her BEFORE you can expect her to have sex with you! To begin with, you may have to simply connect with her on some superficial, simple things. For example:

Go shopping together. This can be for groceries, curtains, clothes, or any personal items. If you go clothes shopping, be sure to give her some VERY adoring, jaw-dropping moments as she models for you.

Express an interest in what SHE is into. If she is into a hobby, craft, or volunteer program, ask her about it. You don’t have to take up needle point, just talk about what she is into. Show sincere interest.

Let her talk. More importantly, when you let her talk, don’t try to solve any issue she brings up! Women simply need to talk and be heard. Even if they ask what do you think, resist the temptation to give a “solution.” Rather, you should empathize and state how you understand.

Give her specific compliments. Broad flattery is useless. Specific compliments on her hair, eyes, or how well she pulled off something at her job is going to give you loads of credit in the “He cares” bank account.

Only AFTER you have deposited enough into this “He cares” bank account, can you expect to make any withdrawls. Be sure to not brazenly ask for this…keep depositing your emotional support until your account is overflowing and she feels a strong compulsion to give you what you need. Remember, she needs love in order to have sex. So give her all the emotional love, support, adoration, affection, and patience in the world. Once you accomplish that, you will be able to have sex more often…then you will feel loved!

For more tips, advice, and a step by step system to make your wife hot, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Listen guys, I know that MOST of us have no problem in the performance or endurance department. However, regardless of your age, sex drive, and/or consistency, there are some distinct advantages to adding a little “umph” to your evening.

If you’ve been married for more than 5 years, then maybe your WIFE would like a little variety in the sack. If your confidence is high-great! But one or both of you probably could use some spice, variety, and/or new thing in your bedroom. If you don’t want to go out and buy a Brad PItt mask, the least you can do is to impress your wife with multiple sessions in one evening. Or, if you are already a 2-3 times per night kinda guy, what about lasting longer? It doesn’t matter if you already go for an hour or two in a session. Any time you change positions, pace, and yes…endurance, you are going to add a new element to your love-making. There are specific, natural enhancers, both psychologic and herbal that have proven to work. For a list of these, please check out my website.

For those of you who read my blog, you know that I am focusing my attention on you middle-aged guys with weak and/or average marriages. You used to be a passionate guy. You and your wife used to laugh more, have sex in odd places, and you were turned on by the very mention of her name. After 10+ years of marriage, many of us see a decline in our passions and our relationships. Kids, work, mortgage, and time all slowly erode what makes us men and what gives us a fire in our belly.

This is 100% YOUR responsibility and you can re-light your marriage and your passions. Sure, there are medical needs for Viagra, Cialis, etc. But there are herbal supplements that can achieve the same thing! In fact, if you really want to see about getting a slight boost on the cheap, here’s one that should help you out this 4th of July….eat more watermelon! A recent scientific survey has determined watermelons contain an ingredient called citrulline that can trigger production of a compound that helps relax the body’s blood vessels, similar to what happens when a man takes Viagra, said scientists in Texas. Don’t take my word for it, check out the link here.

For more direct and thorough process to make your wife hot, get all the sex you want, and have a truly passionate life, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com

Being independent and being married are often at odds with one another. In this blog, I’d like to share with you the difference between being dependent, independent, interdependent and just plain stupid!

You are a married guy…if you are like most of us, after a few years of bliss, come kids, braces, a mortgage, responsibilities, and if you are in the “mid life” crisis time frame, you may experience a mid-life crisis! This time for men (and some women) can be a pivotal point in a man’s identity where he re-evaluates his worth. Take it from me, I’ve had several jobs, a couple of successful and unsuccessful businesses, the kids, mortgage, and a 20 year marriage. To say that I have “given up” my independence in exchange for the trappings of suburban bliss would be accurate only on the surface.

It took me a fews years of well orchestrated communication seminars, personal discovery tours (traveling to the amazon rain forest on my own) dozens of books, some therapy and the fortitude to re-invent myself to realize that men are losing their manhood and masculinity faster than the ever before. Women rule the roost, and we’ve all heard the expression, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” What about us? Where do we fit in?

For hundred of thousands of years, (use caveman voice here) “men killed mastodon, brought back to cave, wife fed kids, wife satisfied caveman, then caveman die” (around his mid 40’s). Our DNA is literally wired to work hard, procreate, raise the kids until they are in their teens, then we die off. Only problem is, we are living longer-a lot longer!

Many men hit their physical, career, and psycholgical stride in the mid-40’s just as they are wired to do. Now, once we accomplish “everything” are we supposed to just go throughout our remaining days in bliss. I say, “NO WAY!” You may have given up your independence of being single to create the wonderful family you have. Statistics have shown that you have reduced your sexual activity (while raising kids) and your career path today isn’t what you expected when you were 25.

Take this opportunity to define independence and interdependence. Discuss OPENLY with your wife your yearnings to go out and kill another mastodon! Let her know that while you appreciate all she does to raise the kids and run the household, that you have needs that are not being met and that some of these needs she can help with (see my bookavailable online). Other needs she may not be able to help with.

If you find yourself wanting to go out and “escape from behind enemy lines,” skydive, go to the amazon rain forest, take a Indy 500 racing course, or buy a corvette, you should definitely acknowledge these desires. You better act upon them as soon as possible, too. If you don’t your frustrations may mount and you will find yourself taking it out on the ones you love. Dealing with a mid life crisis takes effort. Both parties to the marriage must understand and work with it. Here are a few pointers:

1. Ladies, If your man wants to go out and go fishing in Alaska, buy a corvette, or become a bull fighter, you better let him. If you try holding him back, he may try something really dangerous!

2. Men, don’t worry about what your wife will say about these desires or behavior. She may or may not understand them, but eventually she will come to accept them as a normal rite of passage for you. Give her some materials to read about the subject. There is an excellent article and book on my recommended list that literally saved my marriage. Check it out.

3. Distill down your needs. Do you need a new career? Or, are you simply bored and need to get a hobby? Are you passions ones that the two of you can work on together or are they things you want to do alone or with buddies? Be honest with yourself.

4. Being attracted to younger women. This is a biggie. This is only one symptom of mid life crisis and an important one. Women understand this better than the guys do. There are many needs that being with a younger woman addresses. Primarily, a man’s primordial need to procreate and reproduce is the foundation. We look at and desire fertile women-period. Secondary, having younger women attracted to US makes us feel younger. The idea of getting old is often more freightening to men than to women. Cures for this will be the topic of future blogs…stay tuned!

You can be independent by acknowleding your interdepence with your wife, your situation, your family and your yearnings to be a man. All of these factors work in concert with one another. For millions of men, they work in opposition because they don’t understand what is happening to them. Their lack of education and communication accelerates their frustrations and the spillover can turn into alchoholism, divorce, suicide or worse….being alive without really living!

For more tips, advice and to learn how to re-energize yourself as a man, make your wife hot, and live an abundant life, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com

Admiration, flatery, and compliments are things that we, as humans all crave. People go to extremes for recognition in our society. Your wife is no different. She should be placed on a pedastal by you. In order to make your wife totally hot, you need to formulate a slow, steady, step by step plan that takes into consideration HER needs and yours. Her needs come first, my friend. It is the only way to get what you want. Let’s face it, we ALL want a hot woman on our arm as we walk into a room. It can boost both our egos. So, what if your wife is average? What if she is the kindest, smartest, and nicest person in the world? Doesn’t that count for anything? Of course it does…beauty is skin deep and relationships based soley on physical attraction are doomed from the beginning. However, that does not mean that your wife wants to be frumpy! The simplest, non-materialistic woman in the world still wants to look and feel like a princess. You, as her knight, are responsible for helping her. I outline a specific psychological and practical process for this in my book available online.

Here are some salient points that you need to address and work on in order to have a gorgeous trophy wife like I do!

1. Even BEFORE you take her shopping, (YES…you are going shopping, buddy) compliment her on her features. Tell her how slender her legs are, how trim her waist is, or how sexy her tummy is. Be specific and direct. Tell her that you have always been attracted to these features and it really turns you on.

2. If some of her features are not as hot as they used to be, don’t worry. Throughout this process you will be using specific, positive, effective triggers to get her to tone up, lose weight, and dress up for the both of you! Don’t give her false flattery. If her rear is too big, don’t say it isn’t…she’ll know you re lying.

3. Go to a NICE store. I’m not bashing Target or Walmart, here. But, if you want a supermodel for a wife, you need to go to where the fashions are. You don’t have to pay retail…go to the sale rack if you can and take the TIME to let her try on as much as she wants.

4. Be honest. If she comes out in something that isn’t flattering, pause and suggest she try something else on. When she does come out with something flattering, use your body language, voice and eyes to let her know how beautiful she is. Having your jaw hit the floor will do more for your relationship than you can imagine. Not all women want to be models, but they all want to be desired by their husbands. Let her know you are impressed!

5. If she can’t decide between 2 outfits, buy them both. Sometimes you may spend a bit more than you are comfortable with. Get over it. Spending money together on things that make her beautiful and make you proud is much cheaper than therapy and/or divorce! Let her know that you WANT her to spend some cash on herself. She may already be the one who spends too much in the household…so what. This shopping trip is being used for her ego, your libido, and to re-ignite the passion in your marriage. If she looks especially fine and your marital progress can handle it, go into the dressing room with her and SHOW her how hot she is….a little fondling or full blown sex in a dressing room is sure to be exciting…don’t get caught, or you won’t be invited to shop there again.

For more ideas, information and tips on making your wife hot, visit my site at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

As a man, it pains me to admit it, but we are really stupid!

If we realize how EASY it is to impress our wives, we can get all the sex we want. Most of us suffer from waiting to be asked (usually more than once) to clean out the gutters, pick up our underwear, or fix the broken door handle. We have plenty of excuses not to, of course. We work hard, need a break, the game is on right now, or I will get to it later, are all reasonable and popular excuses for not getting things done promptly (or at all). I am as guilty of this as the next guy….until now.

You see, when I take even 10 minutes and totally ignore what I want and focus 100% on what she wants, I am seen as a hero. This weekend, when there was plenty of outdoor work to be done AND I had to finish a bunch of reports for work. I elected to get outside and not only do the odd jobs she requested, but 3 or 4 extra ones she had NOT requested. The old adage of “Under-promising and Over-delivering” is used in business all the time. It can also apply to your marriage!

Even taking 10 extra minutes per day and doing that extra odd job can deliver dividends well past the 10 minutes you invested! If you don’t have any odd jobs around the house, why not get her some flowers “just because.” You can wash her car, fix her lunch, vaccum the house, or schedule a facial for her. Doing small things for no particular reason will most likely shock her. But, if you play your cards right and to the proper set up and delivery as outlined in my book, you can expect to be treated like a king!

Go ahead and impress her. It doesn’t take a whole lot of time and rarely costs you any money. By being her knight in shining armor or her handyman extrordinaire, you will be building up an emotional bank account that will allow you to withraw dividends (sexual or otherwise) for months to come.

For more tips, tricks, and a step by step method to making your wife HOT, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

How can denying a woman sex lead to more and BETTER SEX?

Well, the first step is going to take some time and rewiring of your puny, male brain. You sex drive is nearly always in the “go” position…hers takes some time to warm up. If you have already read my book (And I strongly encourage you to do so!) then you know that no matter how average, sweet, and attractive your wife is, she was probably hotter when she was younger. I didn’t believe it was possible until a few years ago, but my wife is even HOTTER today than when she was 28. She is thinner, dresses sexier, and her sex drive wears me out on a daily basis. This transformation took research, education, and training-on my part! I outlined this process in my book available on my website.

Three weeks before we were married I had the idea of abstaining from sex before our marriage. Now, I don’t mean to say that either of us was a virgin before the honeymoon. However, by pretending to be “innocent” and by not sleeping together at all for 3 weeks before our marriage, I can tell you that our wedding night was memorable. Now, I am sure that most married couples have great sex on the evening of their wedding. It is a magical time and everyone should claim to have had a terrific time. Imagine how much MORE exciting it could have been for them if they would have abstained from any contact for 3 weeks prior to their wedding day? How much sexual tension can you build up in 3 weeks (or 3 days!).

Every anniversary, we do the same ritual…take a break from our lust for a week or two (It is impossible to go for 3 weeks anymore!) and build up our passions and desires. During this time we tease, titilate, and get each other all hot and bothered, but we do not have sex. On the anniversary night we barely make it out of the restaurant! (Don’t ask about what happened on our last wedding anniversary. Needless to say, we are banned from that place forever)

For more ideas, strategies, and psychological triggers you can develop to make your wife hot, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

How do you transition from good sex to GREAT sex?

By delaying sex, of course!

Men are traditionally known for minimal foreplay and rushing off to the races. Our need for sex is usually stronger and it is no secret that men are aroused quicker and easier than most women. Sex is the expression of love between two individuals, of course, so it behooves you to not only acknowledge the woman’s perspective and chemical triggers, but embrace and USE her “ramp up” time to your advantage.

Since we arouse quicker, as soon as SHE is ready, we normally “get going.” My advice here is to do the opposite! As soon as you have used all your charms and skills to get your wife hot and bothered, take even MORE time by denying her your love…as soon as she asks for you, change direction, give her an erotic massage, or continue foreplay beyond the time you normally switch into action mode.

By extending foreplay way beyond what is necessary, you have accomplished more than a few things:

1. You have built up her anticipation and thereby increased her desire
2. You have shown her YOU care about her pleasure
3. Her anticipation will most likely increase her performance
4. You have extended your intimacy time together-stregthening your connection
5. Your variety of “moves” will impress her AFTERWARDS as well as during your session

Changing pace, direction, and environments are only a few of the ideas, concepts and strategies to creating not only the relationship you both want, but creating the smokin’ hot MILF of your dreams! For more ideas, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

When I was dating, there were girls I had great times with, but didn’t bring them home to meet the parents. The girls I DID bring home, were pre-screened as “marriage material.” What does that mean? For most of us, it meant she had what it took to be a supportive spouse, a good mother, and a pillar of the community. Women who fit this description are usually not ex-strippers or biker chicks. After several years of marriage, many of us long for the days of yesteryear. The days of our youth and our wild dates with that slutty cocktail waitress, or a band tramp are most likely great memories, with plenty of excitement.

What if you could train your WIFE to publicly be that adoring wife, but privately be a band groupie or professional escort? (Not for real, but for image purposes) There is a slow and precise method to pulling this off. It takes several weeks to perhaps a few months depending on your wife, her upbringing, sexual desires, and comfort level. Details of this process can be found in my book.

Here are a few first steps:

1. You must let your wife know that you are bored and show her your concern for your marriage. Don’t do anything drastic, just let her know that you realize that your marriage needs to be spiced up. Don’t say that she is boring….only that the marriage needs a jolt.

2. Talk to her candidly about her fantasies, desires, and anything she has thought about but not done. Many women are not very experimental here. If she doesn’t have any, you’ll need to give her some. Get an issue of Cosmopolitan, or some other woman’s magazine that talks about such issues. You can also try a romance novel or sexy movie. (For a list of “sure thing” movies, visit my website)

3. Once she is emotionally and intellectually stimulated, you can move on to satisfying those desires. Take your time and do NOT bring up any of your desires yet. You’ll have to give before you receive so be a good sport and deliver first.

There are dozens of ideas, psychological triggers and moments you can create when you understand what a woman actually wants. Her desire for security and to be “heard” overshadows their sex drive. Be sure to acknowledge those emotional needs first. Once you really tap into that, she’ll recognize that your desire for a secure marriage is important to her and that aspect alone will surely turn her on!

For more information, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com