Well, today marks my 21st wedding anniversary. INCREDIBLE!
Like many of you, not all 21 have been a bed of roses. With 3 kids, a business that collapsed, a separation, my midlife crisis, affairs and child medical issues, our family therapist stated that the odds were definitely against us. Our “Train wreck” was virtually unsurvivable.

With patience and an open mind, we pieced together remnants of our past, our values, and our needs and pressed forward. Where most people give up out of an excessive amount of pain, we pushed forward. Our book and blog explain it all.

We didn’t always know what the outcome would be. Our hearts very often sought the escape valve of divorce. The separation often gave both of us required space to collect our thoughts and garner some introspection without the pressures of being a “couple.”

There is no “end” of course. We continue to talk, laugh, love and lust for one another. The past issues are constantly in our psyche. We can never eliminate our mistakes-only learn from them.

Increasing sexual desire and pleasure after sleeping with the same person for 22 years (yeah…premarital sex) isn’t easy. My personality craves excitement, adventure and “newness.”

My wife and I nearly divorced not because of my cheating, but because we didn’t know how to communicate the REASONS I strayed from my vows of marriage. Now that we can talk about ANYTHING without judgment or emotion, we have created a new and stronger bond than ever before.

There is no “end” to this story. There is only a new day, every day that we can crawl into bed, whisper something really naughty, break out the new toy or new chapter in the Kama Sutra, and bang each others brains out.

When all else fails in a marriage, try vigorous, passionate, off the chart sex. Couples who have a sexually charged, intimate relationship rarely divorce.

For more ideas on how to create a smokin’ hot MILF for your wife, check out my ebook at www.makeyourwifehot.com. The title is chauvinistic, but the content was written by my wife and me. We both know the benefits of her sex appeal. She feels better about herself and I love…absolutely LOVE having my mistress, my girlfriend and my wife all be one and the same.

This headline STINKS!  Just because I’m a guy I can’t “improve”? Just because my solution to “we don’t talk enough” is “I think more oral sex will work” , I am shunned from my wife….well, uhm…yeah!

Men are really simple creatures. Women are not. (At least that is what men THINK) In reality, both genders are very simple, If we study human history and biology we can solve half of the equation of mis-communication between us.

From an anthropological and historical sense, men are the providers. We used our strength to “killl mastodon…bring back to cave…make more people”.

Our female counter parts spent millions of years nurturing and caring for the young. It is only in the past 100 years or so that these roles have merged, crossed over and otherwise co-mingled. Think about the time line. 100 years divided by 1 million years of evolution is 1/10,000. That’s like being told for 50 years that the world is flat, you lived it, you breathed it, your parents were both told that, etc. and then in less than a second it all changed. The earth has always been round, don’t you see?

Men produce billions of sperm per year. Why? In order to propogate the species, of course! Women prepare 1 egg per month…hmmm….I’m no math genius, but isn’t there something wrong here? Yes, I know that many of our guys can’t swim, some are warrior sperm designed to attack and kill other guys sperm. But, the fact remains that men can reproduce into their 70’s, women peak late 40’s/early 50’s and our urge to reproduce at all costs is why our species proliferates the planet.

Now, all of a sudden women tell us we have to search our feelings? UH, my feelings are centrally located in my pants, my dear. It’s not my fault. Blame evolution, God, or that last Mastodon kill that made me feel so virile!

In all seriousness, we CAN talk, share our feelings and connect with women. It’s just not that easy to accomplish. And for that we can blame the media, our fathers, and anyone else who has uttered the words:

• “Be a man.”
• “Suck it up.”
• “Semper Fi”
• “There’s no crying in baseball!”

The list goes on and on. Men are conditioned from a very early age not to cry, express their feelings, or shed any emotion. Is that evolution or environmental conditioning? Probably both, My Fair Lady. (Or “Trading Places” if you are into 80’s movies)

So in order for us to relate emotionally vs. physically and if a woman wants us to express our inner feelings we have to take a break from our manliness and listen.  If you are a woman and you desire a deeper connection or simply wants to avoid arguments, the simplest strategy is to be attentive to our needs, relax, and don’t ask, (at least not directly) “how we feel.” That is a chick question and we seriously don’t know how to answer it. Sorry. We CAN improve our communication, however. It takes patience and a bit of manipulation on your part (Shouldn’t be a problem-right?) Since men are visual and pretty much walking hard on’s, appeal to that aspect of ourselves and you can pry all the information you want out of us. Professinal spies have done this for years. You can too! You don’t have to even feel guilty about it. I am not suggesting sleeping with the enemy, here. I am suggesting being that incredibly hot girlfriend you were when he met you! You once were. Perhaps 12 years of marriage, 2.5 kids, a mortgage, sleepless nights, and paino recitals have made you both forget what it was like to be boyfriend/girlfriend and date each other. Since you are smarter than he is, go ahead and start. Put on your sexiest outfit, kidnap him after work, go to a cheap hotel, and rock his world. Don’t even try to tell me that won’t affect him in a positive sense!

Guys, if you REALLY want to have sex with a smokin’ hot MILF and be sore every other day, you HAVE to learn the skills of communicating on a deep, emotional level with your woman. It isn’t as simple as saying, “I really love you” or “You are everything to me.” Words are a great start. But women are smarter than us, of course. You need to increase your emotional strength and communication.

Bottom line is, you have to lead.

My book, Make Your Wife Hot, has been reported to have a chauvinist title. DUH! Of course! It is oriented to men. However, I am not afraid to admit this, guys…my wife and I co-wrote it. Clearly 1/2 of the content is emotionally-based strategy and tactics that women clearly want and need.

In fact, we surveyed and polled nearly one hundred couples and women to come up with the essence of sex in a relationship, from a woman’s perspective. We did this because (generally speaking) guys want more sex.

Actually, women do too. They just call it love. Men crave sex in order to “feel” love and woman crave love in order to have sex. It’s simple but so many men get the order wrong. They think that their sexual prowess in the bedroom will make a woman swoon and be loyal to them forever. BUZZ! WRONG! If that were true, you wouldn’t see so many average looking guys with smokin’ hot wives. (The opposite is rarely true-sorry ladies)

Women crave security. This security can come in many forms from financial, spiritual, emotional, physical, etc. Going back to the Mastodon example, as long as Thor brought back enough meat to feed the little ones, life was bliss (or at least survivable). Now that supermarkets are in vogue, financial security has largely replaced brute strength. That’s why rich-middle aged male celebrities often end up with supermodels.

NOTE: If you are a middle aged woman threatened by that statement then you DEFINITELY need to read my ebook. You have more experience, sex appeal and confidence than any supermodel…your hubby knows it. Reading my book and applying the principles will make him yours-forever.

So, guys, do yourself a favor. Start reading an occassional self-improvement book or relationship book. You will understand that women aren’t really that complex. She will shower you with sex (and love) every time she catches you reading that book, listening to her talk or sees you picking up your underwear. All of these activities are a turn on in some fashion. DO IT!

For more ideas, strategies and tactics on creating a sexually-charged relationship for life, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com. 9p3t4awmgj

Nearly every guy believes he is a master at oral sex…that’s OK. I do too. The difference is, I have dozens (not hundreds, I mean there are diseases out there, fellas!) of testimonials from women whose future sex lives I have personally ruined. I was the best they ever had or will ever have (unless their new guy is reading this!) Let me begin with the foundation for mind-blowing oral sex.

You have to enjoy it.

You see, if you are merely doing a “task” to get her off, you will be an average lover. Simply applying the techniques below is not enough to make her your sex slave for life. Believe me, if you do put your heart, soul (and yes, your tongue) into this, you have a chance of giving her multiple orgasms and become the Chinese lick master of the world. If you are one of those people who think that it is just disgusting and try to refrain from it, take a step back and relax. If your woman smells funny, try it again immediately after a shower. Keep in mind, if a woman climaxes well via oral sex, she may be unable to have an orgasm during routine sex. Some women cannot climax without receiving oral sex. There are strategies and techniques for getting her off either way (see book). If that is a challenge for you, get over it. If your lady loves oral sex, give it to her and if she does not, then discover the reason behind it.

1. She might have had a bad experience.

2. She might feel uncomfortable about her body.

3. If she doesn’t want it, then don’t force it on her.

4. Some men think that giving oral sex is disgusting, but love to receive it. That’s not fair you idiot, if you like your partner to perform oral sex, then you need to do the same for her, ENTHUSIASTICALLY.

Secrets of Mind Blowing Oral Sex
- Begin teasing her before going down on her. Run your fingers on her thighs and kiss her on her belly button and belly and then from there just dig into her vagina. Brush your tongue against the labia, and create more lubrication before the show begins.
- Enjoy and have fun and let her know that you are having a great time, as women love it when they feel that their men are just loving their bodies. I always moan a bit and when I am coming up for air, I give her compliments about her pussy.
- Don’t rush yourself. Try to spend plenty of time in pussy-ville. Enjoy everything and explore her vagina like an adventurer. Hurrying to achieve a climax is a sure way to avoid one. Many women who are rushed or too anxious to climax don’t do so.
- Tickle her clitoris with your tongue. Start licking it slowly and then start doing it in a fast rhythm. Because some women love to get their clitoris stimulated and even achieve orgasm while their clitoris is being stimulated. Stop treating it like a fence to be painted. Think about Chinese characters and calligraphy. Paint the alphabet slowly and creatively.
- Massage her outer lips. While you are sucking and licking her clitoris, massage her lips. Pull them away and bring them close together. This will drive her totally insane.
- Use your fingers. Use your fingers to penetrate her while you are licking her clitoris. She will love this. Chances are before long you will feel her tremble with pure delight. Also, you can rub her clitoris while you eat her. You can also try using a toy while you are eating. The three of you will all benefit.
- Put a pillow under her ass. This will give you more room for your dinning pleasure. You will be able to focus more on how to please her if you have more access to her. This Kama Sutra position will also allow deeper penetration of your fingers or toy.
- Massage her nipples. Most women love it when they nipples are rubbed during sex acts. I had one girlfriend who insisted on biting her nipples (impossible during cunnilingus, but you get the idea). Keep in mind that variety is the key.
- Stop midway through intercourse to eat her. This will catch her by surprise. Get her all worked up by pounding the hell out of her. Just when she least expects it, jump down and start licking her beaver. She will go crazy when you do this.
- Take a mint first. This will set her wild. Put a menthol cough drop in your mouth and go down there. After you are done, share it and have her go down on you while she sucks on the cough drop.
- Two Step. Put your mouth on her clitoris and suck while your tongue is in motion. This two-step move of sucking and licking should be reserved for the pre-orgasm. It works nearly all the time.
- Hum a little tune. While you are sucking, hum a little. Some women really like this. Vary the intensity, volume, and rhythm of your humming.
- Encourage a Brazilian wax. Nothing beats eating a fur-burger EXCEPT a fully waxed and clean pussy. Not only will you appreciate avoiding nature’s dental floss. But most women report better and more satisfying sex when their pussy’s are waxed or at least shaved.

Do Not…
- Smell. Don’t tell her that she stinks or ask if she showered today. Take a shower together and start the action while you are in the shower.
- Don’t insist on performing oral sex. If she isn’t feeling so fresh, she is dropping you a hint. If you insist too much, you might get a face full of blood if she is on her period.
- No bartering. Don’t tell her that since you went down on her, she should go down on you.
-No past comparisons. She isn’t your ex, so don’t compare her to her. Keep in mind that the foundation for good oral sex is enthusiasm, communication and patience. I have other articles on multiple orgasm techniques, creating better sex no matter how long you’ve been together or married, and how to make your wife hot. www.makeyourwifehot.com.

In the world of seduction, pornography and sex we all know that the brain is the most powerful part of our bodies. Without the orchestrated release of endorphins, chemicals, blood and synaptic messages there would be nothing.

The cheap and easy method of stimulation is physical and visual. We can be touched or touch another and stimulate our bodies. Viewing pornographic material is another method of stimulating that very special part of the brain.

There is, of course, an “old school” method that works equally well (If not better) than looking at boobs or people in a sexual romp who are obviously acting! You guessed it…read.

I recently read a terrific short story on wordpress about an interview of a young woman and her trip in an elevator with a perspective employer. It is simple, seductive and so well organized that I am suggesting it to ALL of my readers as an exercise in seduction and stimulation for married couples (or any couple for that matter)

Here it is:
http://theindianloveguru.wordpress.com/2009/06/16/going-down/

I’m telling you, if you haven’t read the Kama Sutra or studied any other eastern culture, you are missing out on thousands of years of experience. The USA was founded by the puritanical pilgrims, for God’s sake. For the sexually open and honest, read more eastern works on sexuality. You’ll never feel cheap again! (Unless you want to)

For more wisdom, advice and tips on having a fulfilling and satisfying relationship with your wife, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Busy people everywhere are trying to “arrange” their schedules around work, sleep, soccer practice, dinner,  helping kids with their homework and their love life. More often than not, the one aspect that suffers the most is their love life.

Here’s a unique solution.

Think about the BEST most recent encounter you’ve had with your wife. Think about the last time you were together and had really good sex. Not a typical romp, mind you. Think about the last really, really great time you had.

With that in mind, do what I did and take that thought and energy and interrupt whatever she is doing and take her into your bathroom, bedroom or closet at THAT MOMENT and have a quickie.

You don’t even have to finish her off. Yesterday, after a grueling day at work, she seemed tired, overworked, and pre-occupied. When I told her to “come here I have something to show you,” she had no idea what was about to happen.

I took her into the bathroom, kissed her passionately and hiked her dress up. She tried to stop me and talked about her period. These excuses were no match for my lust. I put her on the sink counter top and did her right there. My son was in the other room, so while we were quiet, we didn’t pause, stop or consider moving to a new room. The moment was spontaneous, passionate, and unstoppable. We didn’t have a long session, mind you. It wasn’t gentle. It wasn’t even that romantic.

It was spontaneous. It was passionate. It was over in less than 10 minutes.

But it was a moment that was unplanned and she was every bit as excited as the time before when there was hours of anticipation and rose petals on the bed. This wasn’t one of those times. She wasn’t always this insatiable or hot. She used to be cautious, a bit frumpy and busy being a full-time mom. But ever since we co-authored the book, “How to Make Your Wife Hot” she’s been impossible to cool down.

For more information on creating off the chart sex with your wife, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

After many years of marriage, many people slip into a dull, unfulfilled, and routine marriage. If you or your wife is shy, this “role play” idea will take some getting used to. If you are completely clueless, watch the opening scenes from “4 Christmases” with Vince Vaughn. He and his girlfriend (Reese Witherspoon) do an excellent “role play” where she gets picked up at the bar from a “stranger” (her boyfriend of many years). Even though they haven’t been married, because both sets of parents are divorced, they know that they have to keep things fresh to keep their love alive!

Even if you are not an actor, it pays to role play every once in a while. Who knows? You may actually get into it. There is nothing to be embarrassed about, after all. You are already married! She’s seen you scratch yourself and fart at the dinner table, what could be worse? Are you dressing up like a cowboy, ready to herd some cattle? Hardly.

Before you go crazy, it may be best to start with something innocent, light-hearted and easy. Here are a few ideas:

• Pretend you are teenagers and your parents are about to come home…quickie time!
• Imagine you are the pool boy and speak no English. Have you wife SLOWLY seduce you
• Become the opposite of your personality (Bad boys be nice!)
• Have you wife play hard to get at the bar. For added thrills, have her toss a drink in your face
• Pretend you are a judge at a beauty contest and you need to speak to her alone…
• Let her be the boss at your “job”. Have her forcibly have sex with you in your home office
• Be a service technician and surprise her in the shower (no plumber’s crack please)
• Have her be a stripper for you. Offer her some $$$ for extras and make sure she refuses for a while
• Let her be a foreign exchange student asking for directions
• (Here’s a classic) Be her gynecologist and tell her you are retiring today!
• Get in a huge fight over nothing. Threaten to leave her, reconcile and have great make up sex

You get the idea. It may be too much for some folks to wear costumes right away. However, taking on simple personalities or persona’s can be fun, embarrassing (who cares?) and definitely titillating once you get the hang of it. The more punch you can put into your roles, the more exciting it will be for the two of you.

For great ideas on getting you and you wife to have BETTER sex, connection and intimacy than ever before, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

After 20+ years of marriage, you would be foolish to think that things wouldn’t get stale. In order to keep your love, lust and laughter alive, you have to proactively seek out new and exciting things to do with and TO each other! Having sex in different and/or unusual places is just one thing that can do the trick. Here are a few places my wife and I have done the deed. Feel free to add to this list! (Comments welcome) If you want to make them private, visit my website and email them to me. Here we go:

• Walk-in closet on the floor or standing up
• Kitchen Counter top (against it AND on it)
• Front seat of car (in driveway or on the highway going 70)
• Kids room (weird, keep the lights off)
• In the dark room, processing pictures (before digital cameras, I know)
• On the beach (watch out for that sand…why do you think they call it sandpaper!)
• In the ocean (Bouncing is easier with the buoyancy of the water!)
• In the hot tub (heat will tire you out quicker)
• On the windowsill (6 inches of ledge was all I needed for that tight little ass)
• In the pool (Great compromise between hot tub and ocean)
• On the couch downstairs with the kids upstairs
• In the bathroom (Mirrors can come in handy)
• On an airplane (Officially it was a blow job, red eye under a blanket)
• On the deck in the back yard (after a great barbecue with neighbors)
• In the bathroom at a friend’s party (No really…we didn’t want to get caught)
• On my desk in the office (I am the boss, so no fear of disgrace
• In my chair at the office (Before I was the boss, so the fear of discovery was exciting!)
• In the stall of a bathroom (A very clean one!)
• In the dressing room at Nordstrom’s (Quickie!)
• On a motor boat while underway (Make sure you trust the captain)

I will save the details of these locations, logistics, and crazy stories for more blog entries. For the slightly shy, there are steps you can take to prevent embarrassment. For the outgoing, there are steps you can take to embrace the danger and laugh at the situations you create at a later time. All in all, it is ALWAYS fun and exciting to try new things! For more ideas, advice and tips, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Have the BEST sex of your life…WITH YOUR WIFE!? Nobody knows your body better than you. Does your wife? Can she jerk you off as well as you can? This topic is rarely talked about but follow me on this…

Getting your wife to touch herself and assist in foreplay is acceptable, right? OMG, shadow dancers, strippers, and lesbian porn prove that a woman who touches herself is sexy as hell. What about us? Watching a guy jerk off is most likely NOT in the top 10 downloaded porn videos…it just isn’t sexy (for either party). So why do it?

Simple.

Because you are the master of your domain, my well hung friend. Your ability to do EXACTLY what your body needs is obvious. What is less obvious is that your wife probably does some of what you like, and can get you going pretty well. BUT, is she a pro? Does she know exactly the pace, rythmn, pressure, and timing that you like? Can she translate her hand job skills to her mouth, or her vagina? Think about it…

Most people moan and use 2 word sentences when having sex. (Oh, baby or Oh yeah) I am going to suggest you have FUN with this, dude. Keep the lights on, tell her you are going to give each other a lesson and you should each do a full masturbation session for the other. Pre-excited, during, and climax. When you do a full session on yourself and she observes EXACTLY the technique, speed, and intensity that you like (no note taking or video please) she can better duplicate the precision that you need to have more satisfying sex.

Don’t worry about the embarrassment of it…she’s seen you pee and listened to your farts for years. If it makes it any easier, she can always peek out of the closet while you do it. Just ask her not to giggle or say anything so as not to break your concentration. For more ideas, advice, and strategy on having the best sex of your life, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.comand see for yourself that you already have a MILF in your house, time to make her a pro!

She used to be a depressed, overweight, unaffectionate “mom”…in less than 6 months, I was dating a certified MILF! This didn’t happen overnight and it didn’t come without a bunch of stress, tears, anger, and serious talks about divorce. But we did turn it around. Nowadays, I am actually MORE turned on by her than when she was 26. Why? Because 48 year old, thin, sexy women are MORE confident and know how to please a man and how to please themselves…without hesitation!

But, how do you turn around a relationship and/or marriage that is boring, stale and has almost no hope for survival? Do you even WANT to turn yours around? If you have any desire at all, you need to focus, pay close attention and find out how to make your wife hot!

Perhaps you are like me and your life is come to a cross roads. Not all at once. Not in an instant, but slowly and methodically, you notice that she isn’t the nympho she used to be, you are working too much, and the kids seem to take priority over everything. You may be looking elsewhere or you may have already sought satisfaction in other ways or with other women. If you have, you may have opened up Pandora’s box (or was her name Stacey?).

You see, if you have cheated and your lover is younger, prettier and more exciting than your wife (duh!) then you have twice as much work to do! Don’t worry, the “work” will be more fun than you can imagine.

1. You must first DECIDE that you want to save your marriage. That decision comes based on your commitment, values and what you have invested in the relationship. Their are probably children and assets to be concerned with. Weigh that against you sordid moments of pleasure…hmmm…

2. Once you have made that decision, you have to communicate with your wife…a lot. You probably have to tell her about the affair. Your guilt will most likely impede all other communication, so let it out, let the sparks fly and once the dust settles, you can both look forward to a new day! (unless she isn’t the forgiving type, then its off to Buenos Aires with Stacey!) Your communication must be centered on your needs, values, and what you want out of life along with what you want in a partner. If your wife is frumpy or overweight, be sure to look in the mirror BEFORE you approach that subject. She will most likely follow in your footsteps if you are getting into shape.

3. Finally, start telling her NOW that she is a goddess. People will live up to what is expected of them. When you call her your princess (or your private whore, depending on how far you’ll be going with this) she will want to be the hottest MILF out there. Her desire to be beautiful has always been there. You have to encourage it to come out of her.

4. Date your wife. Nothing could be simpler and so overlooked. Remember when you DID date her BEFORE you were married? Did you leave your underwear on the floor then? Did you send her flowers, or call her at work “just because”. Most men forget these simple habits and take their princess’ for granted. Don’t do it! Put her on a pedestal and tell her friends how hot she is.

For more ideas, tips, and commentary on making your wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and get ready for more sex, fun, laughter and seduction than you can handle…from YOUR HOT WIFE!!!

Think you’ve heard it all? As a popular blogger and author, I’ve had some of the strangest questions asked of me and my hot wife. She wasn’t always hot, of course. 2.2 kids and 20 years of marriage takes its toll on anyone. We did have a fork in the road a few years ago and we both underwent some serious “reprogramming”. I remembered what it meant to “date” and put her on a pedastal, and she learned how to dance on a pole! To hear more about it, click here.

Now, for the 7 dumbest questions I have ever received:

7. It takes my wife almost an hour to orgasm and I’m tired after 20 minutes. What do I do?

Uhm…you need to learn about foreplay, dude. It shouldn’t take her that long. Oh, regarding your stamina…try going to the gym. You are probably out of shape.

6. My wife isn’t hot at all, Doug. But, she is VERY horny. I love her, but her weight gain has made her less appealing than ever before. I don’t know what to do.

You can do what I did and get an escort for a few years, suffer the embarrassment of an affair, and endure 2 years of counseling…OR YOU CAN TALK TO HER!!! Try going to the gym yourself, then take her shopping, and let her know in the nicest way possible that she IS hot. She will live up to your encouragement.

5. I want to get my wife a naughty costume for Halloween. She refuses to dress up, even in private.

Dress up yourself, you pirate! She will get in the spirit of being a wench even without the costume when you dangle your scabbard in front of her.

4. I love blow jobs, but am not into going down on my wife. I know that seems like a double standard, but it just doesn’t do anything for me.

Hello, Felix! Perhaps you missed the point. Going down on your wife is for HER pleasure!!! Just imagine you are painting the Chinese alphabet with your tongue. In fact, put some of your 4 basic food groups down there and have a snack.

3. My wife used to have long hair. As she got older, she cut it shorter and shorter. It’s not a big thing, but she looks less sexy to me. What do I tell her?

Go out and buy 2 different colored wigs. She likes the short hair, you only need the long hair when you are banging her.

2. I want to have sex in a public place, my wife is horrified at the thought. How do I get her to go to a secluded beach or park and seduce her?

A) You can take her to a secluded place, slip ecstasy in her Kool-Aid and have a ball or B) Start off by simply fondling her at the park on a few visits…get her used to it, then cut her off for a month, and next time you take her there, bring flowers, a diamond, a new BMW, and renew your wedding vows right before you unzip your fly.

1. I only like 2 positions and my wife wants to try a new position almost every other day. I think it’s best to stay with what works. What do you think?

I think you are a dork.

Of course, my answers were a little kinder. But the essence of the questions is based on fear and rejection. Think about that. You are already married, so real rejection probably isn’t in the cards. What do you have to fear? Trying new things is sometimes uncomfortable. However, it really depends upon your attitude. Get in the spirit of FUN! Accept that you will create some embarrassing moments. That is half the fun. You will end up with some great laughs and some terrific new sexual experiences. For more fun, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com.