Make Your Wife Hot: My Blog

As a man, it pains me to admit it, but we are really stupid!

If we realize how EASY it is to impress our wives, we can get all the sex we want. Most of us suffer from waiting to be asked (usually more than once) to clean out the gutters, pick up our underwear, or fix the broken door handle. We have plenty of excuses not to, of course. We work hard, need a break, the game is on right now, or I will get to it later, are all reasonable and popular excuses for not getting things done promptly (or at all). I am as guilty of this as the next guy….until now.

You see, when I take even 10 minutes and totally ignore what I want and focus 100% on what she wants, I am seen as a hero. This weekend, when there was plenty of outdoor work to be done AND I had to finish a bunch of reports for work. I elected to get outside and not only do the odd jobs she requested, but 3 or 4 extra ones she had NOT requested. The old adage of “Under-promising and Over-delivering” is used in business all the time. It can also apply to your marriage!

Even taking 10 extra minutes per day and doing that extra odd job can deliver dividends well past the 10 minutes you invested! If you don’t have any odd jobs around the house, why not get her some flowers “just because.” You can wash her car, fix her lunch, vaccum the house, or schedule a facial for her. Doing small things for no particular reason will most likely shock her. But, if you play your cards right and to the proper set up and delivery as outlined in my book, you can expect to be treated like a king!

Go ahead and impress her. It doesn’t take a whole lot of time and rarely costs you any money. By being her knight in shining armor or her handyman extrordinaire, you will be building up an emotional bank account that will allow you to withraw dividends (sexual or otherwise) for months to come.

For more tips, tricks, and a step by step method to making your wife HOT, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

How can denying a woman sex lead to more and BETTER SEX?

Well, the first step is going to take some time and rewiring of your puny, male brain. You sex drive is nearly always in the “go” position…hers takes some time to warm up. If you have already read my book (And I strongly encourage you to do so!) then you know that no matter how average, sweet, and attractive your wife is, she was probably hotter when she was younger. I didn’t believe it was possible until a few years ago, but my wife is even HOTTER today than when she was 28. She is thinner, dresses sexier, and her sex drive wears me out on a daily basis. This transformation took research, education, and training-on my part! I outlined this process in my book available on my website.

Three weeks before we were married I had the idea of abstaining from sex before our marriage. Now, I don’t mean to say that either of us was a virgin before the honeymoon. However, by pretending to be “innocent” and by not sleeping together at all for 3 weeks before our marriage, I can tell you that our wedding night was memorable. Now, I am sure that most married couples have great sex on the evening of their wedding. It is a magical time and everyone should claim to have had a terrific time. Imagine how much MORE exciting it could have been for them if they would have abstained from any contact for 3 weeks prior to their wedding day? How much sexual tension can you build up in 3 weeks (or 3 days!).

Every anniversary, we do the same ritual…take a break from our lust for a week or two (It is impossible to go for 3 weeks anymore!) and build up our passions and desires. During this time we tease, titilate, and get each other all hot and bothered, but we do not have sex. On the anniversary night we barely make it out of the restaurant! (Don’t ask about what happened on our last wedding anniversary. Needless to say, we are banned from that place forever)

For more ideas, strategies, and psychological triggers you can develop to make your wife hot, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

How do you transition from good sex to GREAT sex?

By delaying sex, of course!

Men are traditionally known for minimal foreplay and rushing off to the races. Our need for sex is usually stronger and it is no secret that men are aroused quicker and easier than most women. Sex is the expression of love between two individuals, of course, so it behooves you to not only acknowledge the woman’s perspective and chemical triggers, but embrace and USE her “ramp up” time to your advantage.

Since we arouse quicker, as soon as SHE is ready, we normally “get going.” My advice here is to do the opposite! As soon as you have used all your charms and skills to get your wife hot and bothered, take even MORE time by denying her your love…as soon as she asks for you, change direction, give her an erotic massage, or continue foreplay beyond the time you normally switch into action mode.

By extending foreplay way beyond what is necessary, you have accomplished more than a few things:

1. You have built up her anticipation and thereby increased her desire
2. You have shown her YOU care about her pleasure
3. Her anticipation will most likely increase her performance
4. You have extended your intimacy time together-stregthening your connection
5. Your variety of “moves” will impress her AFTERWARDS as well as during your session

Changing pace, direction, and environments are only a few of the ideas, concepts and strategies to creating not only the relationship you both want, but creating the smokin’ hot MILF of your dreams! For more ideas, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

When I was dating, there were girls I had great times with, but didn’t bring them home to meet the parents. The girls I DID bring home, were pre-screened as “marriage material.” What does that mean? For most of us, it meant she had what it took to be a supportive spouse, a good mother, and a pillar of the community. Women who fit this description are usually not ex-strippers or biker chicks. After several years of marriage, many of us long for the days of yesteryear. The days of our youth and our wild dates with that slutty cocktail waitress, or a band tramp are most likely great memories, with plenty of excitement.

What if you could train your WIFE to publicly be that adoring wife, but privately be a band groupie or professional escort? (Not for real, but for image purposes) There is a slow and precise method to pulling this off. It takes several weeks to perhaps a few months depending on your wife, her upbringing, sexual desires, and comfort level. Details of this process can be found in my book.

Here are a few first steps:

1. You must let your wife know that you are bored and show her your concern for your marriage. Don’t do anything drastic, just let her know that you realize that your marriage needs to be spiced up. Don’t say that she is boring….only that the marriage needs a jolt.

2. Talk to her candidly about her fantasies, desires, and anything she has thought about but not done. Many women are not very experimental here. If she doesn’t have any, you’ll need to give her some. Get an issue of Cosmopolitan, or some other woman’s magazine that talks about such issues. You can also try a romance novel or sexy movie. (For a list of “sure thing” movies, visit my website)

3. Once she is emotionally and intellectually stimulated, you can move on to satisfying those desires. Take your time and do NOT bring up any of your desires yet. You’ll have to give before you receive so be a good sport and deliver first.

There are dozens of ideas, psychological triggers and moments you can create when you understand what a woman actually wants. Her desire for security and to be “heard” overshadows their sex drive. Be sure to acknowledge those emotional needs first. Once you really tap into that, she’ll recognize that your desire for a secure marriage is important to her and that aspect alone will surely turn her on!

For more information, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com

Duh! But it goes WAY beyond missionary to doggy. For anyone who has been married more than a year, even trying a new position every day will eventually expire your creative juices (Pun intended). When it comes to changing positions, you have more than simply your physical variables. Sure you can move this way and that, but what about changing something OTHER than yourselves?  Interested? There are hundreds of ideas, strategies and influential tricks you can use by clicking on my website. For instant success, read on…

Change your pillows. Putting a pillow underneath your wife can deepen your penetration by up to a full 1.5 inches depending on how you measure it, and how she stretches and reacts.

Change your headboard. Headboard…what a dumb idea. What about a footboard! Now, you can get some traction. Do a 180 degree move on your bed and use your headboard or wall as a fixed object to work from. You’ll go deeper, appear stronger and I guarantee everyone will benefit.

Change location. This isn’t as obvious as it seems. Less than 3% of married couples ever get a hotel room in their own home town and fewer still have done it in their own car! Go to the drive-in, or after a great dinner, go to the park, beach, or library! Changing location and bordering on havin sex in public can be extremely thrilling! Don’t forget other areas of you own home including the kitchen, closets and other rooms. Experiment!

Have an affair. People START affairs because of a lack of attention, communication and/or sex. The thrill and danger obviously accelerates the excitement. You can have an affair WITH your spouse by simply taking on a new role, personality or doing it in a local hotel.  It takes some play acting, but who cares? You are married and probably have had plenty of embarrassing moments before. Create a new name, check into a cheap hotel and get out of there in under an hour! Be creative!

Change your pace. If your love-making style resembles a rabbit, try slowing down and moving as SLOWLY as possible. If you traditionally are a gentle lover, mimic the rabbit. The more varied you are in your style, the more interesting you will be to her, and you’ll discover new things about yourself as well.

Change your dress. Rent a tuxedo, uniform, or other outfit and play dress up. Most adults have no imagination and are embarrassed to do things like this. What have you got to lose? Giggle about it, split a bottle of wine, or simply test the waters with a hat or a tool belt. Needless to say, nurses outfits work better on her than you!

For more ideas on putting the spice back into your marriage, and making your wife the smokin’ hot trophy wife of your dreams, visit my site at www.makeyourwifehot.com. I guarantee your relationship will be saved, improved, and if you really apply yourself, you will be the adonis she craves and will want every night.

Some people (frustrated women, mostly) accuse me of focusing too much on sex! I get emails constantly from these people saying that I focus on sex WAY too much in my book, blog, and articles. Obviously, NONE of these people have ever read my book which CLEARLY outlines how we, as men, must be the first to change in our relationships. It is impossible to change another individual who doesn’t want to change! Therefore, the ONLY person we can change is ourselves. It is those subtle and often dramatic changes in ourselves that cause, influence, motivate or hypnotize the other people into wanting to change themselves. I clearly outline this in my book, which is available by clicking here.

If you haven’t read, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” I strongly encourage you to do so. There are dozens of other books that explain how and why we think and act the way we do. I have a recommended video and reading list available on my website. The MORE you understand how a woman thinks, the easier it will be for you to tap into their patterns, beliefs, and core values and use that knowledge to get what you want…MORE SEX!

This isn’t manipulation or “mind control” of course. This is simply communication at a higher level. The more you communicate in the style that makes SENSE to your wife, the more she will reciprocate and communicate in your style.  Here is an example:

Your wife wants to talk…too much. When a woman talks, she wants only one thing; for you to listen. NOT for you to solve, approve, agree, disagree, or ignore….but to listen. The more intently you listen and even just try to understand what she is saying, the more points you will score. These “points” are useful on two levels.

1. When you listen, and listen intently, you will understand her more. This leads to higher communciation, better connectivity and a more intimate relationship.

2. When she believes that you are listening and NOT trying to solve her problems, you will be communicating on her level. Women don’t often need a solution to their monologues, they simply want to be heard. Whomever listens well (usually it is their best girlfriend) is seen as a genuine friend. Imagine if that was you! Her emotional bank account will be filled with your genuine interest…interest that you can withdrawl when the time is right!

So, yeah…it is about the sex. Men need sex to feel loved, and women need love to have sex. As men, it is up to us to lead by example, deliver the intimacy they need, in order to fulfill our own needs. Don’t fake it, by watching the game and saying, “uh huh.”  that will immediately close your account for hours, days or weeks depending on your track record. An attentive listener becomes an attentive lover. 

For more insight into how a woman thinks, how YOU can tap into that power, and make YOUR wife HOT, visit my website by clicking here or visit, www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Dating, engagement, marriage, honeymoon, kids, and then….blah…

Do you remember when you actually dated?
Do you remember when you actually had to pursue your quarry?
Don’t you miss the exhilaration of conquest?

After 2.2 kids, 10+ years of marriage, most men (and women) forget how much fun they had when they went out of their way to actually impress one another. If you want those feelings again (and who doesn’t) you have to actually DATE YOUR WIFE!

Now I am not talking about “date night” where once every week or two, you go out to dinner or a movie without the kids…any moron can do that! If you really want to add TRUE excitement and spice into your boring life, then you must pursue and conquer. Your masculine tendencies MUST be quenched. For a complete guide on creating the smokin’ hot wife of your dreams, visit my website. Below is a sample of the pointers to I’ve used in my 20+ years of marriage to double the excitement and triple the pleasure!

1. Let your wife know that YOU to be excited and to feel alive, that you must pursue and conquer.
2. This isn’t role playing. You both must understand each others real needs.
3. Send her out and let her buy the most seductive outfit imaginable. Get edgy. A little sluty is OK.
4. Before you go out, tell her to go to a bar, take off her ring and relax.
5. Show up 15-20 minutes later and remember what you USED to do to get laid!
6. Tell her NOT to immediately act interested in you. Playing hard to get makes it more fun.
7. It can be more stimulating if she has had a drink or two before you arrive.
8. If you are feeling very confident, ask her to flirt with a guy or two.
9. When you arrive and “win her over” both of your egos are satisfied.
10. Don’t end it here…when you leave, have sex in the car or go to a hotel.

Dating is simply a word for the animal urges that we all have. Our DNA isn’t wired for grocery stores, cubicles, and 7 minutes of sex 2 times per week, As men we are wired to kill the wooly mammoth, protect our families from sabre-toothed tigers, and populate the earth! Now the first two species are extinct. The declining masculinity of the male gender puts us on the endagered species list. Don’t let it happen to you. Let your woman know that you are a man, and that you are going to protect her and provide for her. Being strong, seductive, and strong is a definite turn on for her. After you seduce your wife again, take her back to your cave (not by the hair, necessarily) and bang the shit out of her. If you are smooth AND strong, she will thank you for it!

For more tips, advice, and strategies to drive your wife wild, make her into the MILF you desire, visit my website by clicking here.

Last time you were sick, did you get extra pampering or were you ignored? Ever since I have become a more attentive and respectful husband, my VERY HOT wife has been returning the favor. I had a cold last week. No big deal. I didn’t miss any work, I still played with the kids, and I still banged her till she was sore. (Actually, she did most of the work, as my energy was quite low!)

Why is this important? Because, guys. Most likely your wife is also your kids mother and YOU are the biggest kid of all! She LOVES to take care of you.

NOTE: If your wife does not like taking care of you, not to worry. You need some basic and advanced training to create a HOT wife who ADORES YOU! Click here to learn more.

The key to using this “Florence Nightengale” syndrome to your advantage is NOT to exaggerate your illness or take advantage of her generosity. Quite the opposite. Your wife wants a man. Men don’t cry and they don’t complain. Everyone was quite impressed when Michael Jordan won one of the championship games with a 103 degree fever. You need to push through your illness and show her how tough you are.

My cold was particularly nasty and my energy was low. Yet, I continued to do little chores around the house without asking. I played with the kids. I even gave HER a foot rub, even though I was ill. Human nature kicked in and she went overboard to not only nurse me back to health, but to help me clear up my nasal passages with some extremely naughty sex!

Don’t pass up on this opportunity to go one step further….have a nurses outfit or hat at the ready. AFTER you have done your part of helping out around the house during your illness, you can suggest that you need a professional to make you feel better. By simply reaching under the bed, or instructing her to go to the closet will be all the instruction she’ll need. Ask her for a nice oil backrub, and to be very careful with that thermometer…it’s better suited for when she is sick!

It is one fantasy that clearly appeals to both genders. Try it, don’t be embarrased (Definitely lock those doors, if you have kids!) and enjoy yourselves…laugh at each other and cuddle often. Your love life and your sex life, like your fever and your cock, is on the rise.

For more ideas, strategies, and psychological triggers to make your wife hot, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com

Here is a tip to make YOUR wife hot that not only is guaranteed to work, but has a long lasting effect and will make YOU the envy of all your friends.

When you go out in public, attend a party, or are in any kind of social situation, be sure to compliment your wife and tell her how beautiful, caring, or special she is. The MAIN thing is NOT to direct your comments or observations to her but in FRONT of her!

Two nights ago, I went out to dinner with some friends and I took special care to tell my friends how much fun my wife was and how lucky I was to be her man. When you tell the world about your hot wife, she may dismiss your comments as boyish charm, or flat out lies…don’t be fooled. ANYBODY appreciates being spoken of in a good light. You must be genuine and your comments should be specific. General flattery can come off as insincere. “My wife, Susan, is the best mother in the world….I owe the success of my kids to her hard work,” you might say. Or, “Look at Susan…I’m probably prejudiced, but I think she is the most stunning woman in this restaurant!” For more great lines, ideas and advice on creating the naughty side of your wife, visit my website by clicking here.

By complimenting your wife and letting OTHER people hear your comments, you are putting her on a pedastal and feeding her ego. We all have egos and they all need to be nourished. Be sure to send her a message of gratitude and adoration privately and publicly. She will work twice as hard to live up to the names you give her.

My wife DOES look incredible, but she didn’t always. Because of the methods I endorse, teach and practice on a daily basis, my wife is more open to crazy sex, can dress like a tramp when we want to “play”, and adores me more now, after two decades of marriage, than ever before.  By putting her on a pedastal, I have created psychological (not physical) foreplay that I can tap into at any moment. In fact, we went shopping for some household items the day after our dinner date with friends, and her after-glow and attitude was so hot, I suggested we try on some clothes together in the dressing room!  YAHOO!!!! While it wasn’ sex in public (Being arrested probably would kill the mood) it was extremely exciting and we created a new memory of a “getting a hummer in unusual places” that we’ll share forever.

For more details on creating the wife of your dreams and making YOUR WIFE HOT, click here.

That’s right…after a week in the Caribbean, many margarita’s at night and sex every day (and 3 times on a few rainy days!) you’d think we’d both be worn out! You are right! Guys can get sore and a woman’s back can get out of whack if you drill too hard for too long with a lower bed (Use your imagination).

Recuperating is important and people have often said, “We need a vacation from the vacation.” While that may be true, you need to realize that if you have created the adoring sex-fiend that I have, there is never enough! She wants me MORE, of course! The “love hangover” of a vacation was planned, well-thought out and on purpose.

For many years, I heard the words, “I’m too tired.” Well, turn about is fair play (even if I am not that tired). You see, by getting her all pumped up with love, kisses, and attention during the vacation, she doesn’t want that to end. I have to go back to work and all she can do is think about her week.

Your job is to keep stimulating her with memories of the week (better return on investment!) and then sprinkle a few “no’s” during her advances…that’ll get her even MORE juiced up, so you can have not just average sex, but strong, vibrant, “off the chart” sex several times each week after the trip. Don’t try this every day.  Be sure to pace yourself with the physical side, but NOT the attention/teasing side. Below are a few specific tips to insure you get a better “bang for you buck” (pun intended)

1. Keep reminding her of how beautiful she looked on vacation. (and the glow afterwards)
2. Print up the pictures you took and keep them out for all to see.
3. Light some candles and massage her feet at least once after the vacation.
4. Tell someone ELSE how beautiful she looks (and make sure she hears you say it)
5. Be sure to tell someone else a story from you vacation (and make sure you say it in front of her)

For more details on making your wife smokin’ hot and acheiving all the love and sex you want, click here.