Make Your Wife Hot: My Blog

I was chatting with a woman friend of mine the other day and she was complaining about her “jack rabbit” hubby. It seems that this guy LOVES to pound her with vigor, but has not mastered or even entertained the idea of the “slow comfortable screw.”

What’s up with that?

Sure, both genders enjoy a robust love-making session with a full bore slammin’ of the gonads, but what about changing things up a bit?

Strangely enough, I told her it was partly her responsibility.

You see, if it was a problem for her and she wasn’t satisfied, it is up to the dissatisfied party (her) to communicate her needs to her lover. There is, of course, a right way and a wrong way to do this.

Wrong way:
“Honey, you bang me too hard. Can you please change the variety of your lovemaking? Why don’t we do it slow for a while.”

Right way:
“You are such an incredible lover! I love the way you bang me. Let’s try changing our pace for a few minutes…I need to catch my breath. Make love to me as slow as you can.”

While the direct approach may work, it doesn’t take any extra effort to add a compliment to the beginning of your request. This works for either gender. You see, our egos are fragile. No where are they more fragile than in the bedroom. Many couples who become bored or complacent, don’t talk enough about sex. They both know what makes each other cum (Hopefully) and don’t experiment with either frequency, pace, rhythmn, mood, aroma, location, etc.

The bottom line is that even if your sex is good or great, it never hurts to talk!

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What is it about a woman’s rear that drives men crazy?

Now, don’t get me wrong. If you are a boob-guy or lose track of time when looking at a nice set of legs, I get it. In fact, throughout my life I have definitely transitioned from being a face-guy, to leg-man and…hell….I think it all matters!

But the rear? Really? I mean, boobs are sex toys, legs lead to that spot where they come together and eyes are the window to the soul.

The only thing a woman’s rear leads to is that place that is used to remove the waste products from her body. Sure, the rear is used for sitting. The muscles are there to support her frame and her butt is attached to those long, lean legs. But in and of itself, why is the butt of a woman appealing? What makes it special?

Generally speaking, curves coincide with a woman’s ability to conceive children. A woman with wider hips and bigger breasts have the equipment to bear children and breast feed.  A super slim streamlined woman with a smaller chest subconsciously may die at childbirth and/or be unable to breast feed. Of course this isn’t true, but to a man’s deep primordial DNA, big boobs win and when the hips match; score!

What is strange, however, is when there is an imbalance between the boobs and the butt. When a woman has a large rear and average or smaller breasts, it is generally not as appealing. When her breasts are full and her butt is small, generally she is considered attractive. Why?

Your comments are appreciated. I am a student of anthropology, human sexuality and relationships. Sometimes my posts are fun, obnoxious or insightful. From a purely sexual angle, big boobs and a small butt are an absolute JOY to behold and to have sex with. The idea of banging a big butt-yuk. But a round, full ass with breasts to match-yum! A set of full breasts with a small, tight ass-Yowza!

I am looking for feedback on this one, guys. Drop me a line.

Doug Steponin

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There are really only two ways to have the trophy wife of your dreams and all the sex you can handle.

1. You can simply buy it (gold digger, concubine, or by the hour).

2. Become the charming, strong, secure, attentive and sexy man SHE craves.

If you don’t care about your health or your other relationships and have the means, maybe buying (or renting) your trophy wife is the path for you. Sure, I may kid about it, but that is only because I created my trophy wife BEFORE I had money. There are plenty of guys who bloom later in life and focused their energy on the almighty dollar. This path has worked for thousands of years.

The other path of working on your confidence, interpersonal communication, ab crunches and sex appeal is one that works for others. There are plenty of cabana boys and personal trainers who get more sex than they can handle. But, do they end up with a long-lasting relationship with the energizer bunny from the gym.

More importantly, do they even want that?

Of course, what WOMEN want is both!

Women want the security (translation: money) of a stable household and relationship and they also want to be swept off their feet by prince charming. I am not blaming them. After all, guys want Betty Crocker in the kitchen and a private whore in the bedroom. We all have needs, after all.

If you choose to focus on finances, you need to be wary of the gold digger who is faking her orgasms and having too many lunches with her personal trainer. If you care, that is.

The REAL solution is to work on both your charm and security. You see, security does relate to finances, but it is not the foundation for making a woman feel loved and secure. Her feelings of security are the foundation for her happiness, not the security itself.

There are millions of stories of men who were “up and coming” in their careers who scored the hot chicks even though they didn’t have two nickels to rub together. If you are in mid-life and haven’t hit your stride, your ability to show your woman that your time is just around the corner financially will go a long way to opening up her heart and her legs.

Balancing your energy between building your 401K, improving your health and taking tango lessons will be more than enough to make her feel loved, cherished and desired. When she has THOSE feelings, you are guaranteed that she will want to return the favor.

I am not saying that canceling your ESPN MVP club membership is required to win her heart. However, if you spend more time on creating a better you that appeals to her, you will create HER prince charming. When you are on that path and it is apparent to her that she has scored with the best catch of her life, you can get away with leaving the toilet seat up and occasionally farting during a game on TV….just don’t make it a habit.

For more strategies on creating a sexually-charged love affair with your wife, visit us at www.makeyourwifehot.com and order my book today. You’ll transform an average wife into the insane love-slave you desire!

What does hair length have to do with making your wife hot?

Everything.

Many women look sexier with longer hair. Short hair can work, but it has to be on the right face, done properly and include an attitude to match. Longer hair is traditionally sexier on a woman because long hair that wax curvy and bouncy tends to match the rest of her body. Besides, men have short hair…without the curves, you may not be able to distinguish gender from a distance!

If your wife has longer hair, you probably don’t need to persuade her to do much to it. Unless it is a rat’s nest, straight or curly, long hair tends to look more feminine overall. Images of Lady Godiva or Rapunzel conjure up beauty, grace and sex appeal.

Short hair is simply butch.

So, what to do if your woman insists on having short hair?

Plenty.

For starters, there are hundreds of examples of cute, sexy and fun short hair styles that can still frame out a beautiful face and give that “come and do me look” that drives a man crazy. Strangely enough, women with a few extra pounds tend to look better with shorter hair. Additionally, if it is styled right, with some hair covering an eye, it can be extremely alluring and will give her the edge on the sultry, “just banged” look that makes you want her more.

Of course, there are high-profile examples of Halle Berry and others who look fantastic with short hair, long hair or even no hair! (Grace Jones and that chick from the first Star Trek movie)

In the end, fellas, for the sake of simplicity, long hair is traditionally sexier. Buying your gal a day at the spa and complimenting her looks always does more to encourage her sensuality than any critical explanation of the evolution of hair length. To get more sex and to keep it spicy in the bedroom, your ability to encourage, compliment and adore her will keep her self-esteem high and her libido in overdrive.

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Oh sure, she says, “I love you.” In fact, she even packs your lunch every day. The list of ways she SHOWS you she loves you is actually endless. Her attention to the kids, her support of your stressful job and her words all affirm a woman who is devoted and loving.

She just doesn’t want to bang you.

The good news is that it’s your fault, buster!

You see, marriages and women are not boring as a category. PEOPLE become boring and don’t solve their issues properly. Left to themselves, things have a tendency to go from bad to worse. When something is making you unhappy, for example — for any reason — the situation will tend to get worse rather than better.

So avoid the temptation to engage in denial, to pretend that relationship is “adequate”, to hope and pray that, next month, she’ll be less stressed and your sex life will improve. Because it won’t. Ultimately, you will have to face the situation and do something about it.

Start today.

There’s an old saying that you can’t solve a problem on the level where you meet it — in other words, that wrestling with a challenge is usually fruitless and frustrating. If the two of you who are constantly fighting (or worse…ignoring the absence of passion) and can’t seem to move to the next level, you are attempting to solve their problems on the wrong level.

Dealing with their problems on a higher level, you should ask the question, “In terms of being happy, is this the right relationship for us in the first place?” This is a scary question to ask a woman because her #1 need is for security. But if you are brave enough to ask it in the first place, you are starting with a clean slate.

Ask the question of yourself first, her second. When you ask it, don’t answer it immediately. Be sure to reflect upon your core needs. What do you want? What do you expect? When you have those answers, before you give her your list, you better ask her for HER list! You can’t expect to get if you don’t give first.

You may discover that she doesn’t ‘want’ you because you aren’t giving her a reason to.

By becoming the prince charming she truly desires, you will open her up emotionally and physically to desiring you sexually.

Think, reflect, improve.

For more details on becoming the husband, friend and lover of HER dreams, read my book, “Make Your Wife Hot.” You’ll discover that creating a trophy wife that is a sex-crazed lover is easier than you think. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married or how overweight she may be. She WANTS to be your sexual playmate. It is up to you to guide her.

"Put down that mouse and touch my kitty."

Most people consider the idea of sex to be a manifestation of the intangible feelings of love. The angels sing, the fireworks begin and feelings of euphoria abound. Sex and love are inexorably intertwined. There are more songs and books written about love than any other topic. However, the topic of sex being used for medicinal purposes is summarily avoided.

Not anymore.

For the past 3 months I have been diligently been writing a full length book. Ask anyone who has written one; it takes the patience of Job, the stamina of an Olympic athlete and the creativity of Walt Disney to complete a book. In short…it’s tough!

What makes it even more difficult is the amount of time writing, re-writing, adding and editing. There are dozens of ways to say one thing. Which way is best? What does this have to do with sex, love and marriage.

Everything.

The stress of making a living, tackling a big project or striving towards a lofty goal can take its toll on anyone. The bigger the goal or project, the more stress an individual may feel. While sex is designed to make babies and express love, medically it can be a tremendous reliever of stress! Don’t believe me? Here is a quote from Columbia University’s Center for Health:

“Endorphins are a group of substances formed within the body that naturally relieve pain. They have a similar chemical structure to morphine. In addition to their analgesic, or pain-relieving, effect, endorphins are thought to be involved in controlling the body’s response to stress, regulating contractions of the intestinal wall, and determining mood. They may also regulate the release of hormones from the pituitary gland, notably growth hormone and the gonadotropin hormones.

Some researchers have learned that strenuous exercise releases endorphins into the blood stream. Others have found that endorphins are released during orgasm, as well as during laughter. Endorphin release may occur with frequent sex and masturbation.”

The bottom line is that sex (I will leave masturbation out of the conversation for now) is a DEFINITE stress reliever. Massages are nice. Exercising is important, but nothing beats the endorphin rush of a great orgasm. Hell, even a mediocre orgasm will take the edge off an otherwise stressful day.

Last week as I was putting in a long 14 hour day, my wife came in with that “look” in her eye and closed and locked my door. As it turns out, we BOTH needed to take the edge off. She didn’t talk about foreplay. She didn’t ask me a single question about “how its going?” or other irrelevant conversation. She looked at me and without saying a word, stripped off my clothes and went down on me.

It didn’t matter that she would be late for an appointment. It didn’t concern me that the kids were in the next room. When I hiked her dress up and pushed her on the couch in my office, her climax was almost instant. By the time we moved to my desk for her 2nd round, she nearly slid off the glass top.

The next time your spouse shows signs of stress, tell them the doctor has a prescription for them…then lock the door and turn off the lights.

"Stop touching yourself. Get your wife to do it."

Before you learn the unbreakable rules for cheating, you need to take a clear look at the pros and cons of infidelity. The costs (and benefits) of cheating is a decision that you are about to make (or have already made) and include financial, emotional, sexual and even medical.

You’ll discover the clear rules for how to cheat on your wife or husband and NOT get caught. You will learn exact methods that thousands of ‘successful’ cheaters have used to avoid detection and live the intriguing double life of infidelity. The rules will give you a squeaky clean record that is as untraceable as a CIA agent’s resume. You’ll read the details on how to avoid the obvious mistakes and learn some underground methods for the elimination of your double life, 100% of the evidence, 100% of the time. You’ll anticipate the moves and suspicions of your spouse and cleverly lay out credible excuses and reasons for your change in actions, attitude or behaviors.

None of these rules will work.

No matter what you say or do to justify your decision to lead a double life, the excuses, reasoning and rationale for your actions, beliefs and behaviors will all come at a cost.

No one ever PLANS on getting caught. Once you’ve successfully cheated on your wife or husband, there is no reason you won’t be successful again.The situations, evidence and “spy-like” maneuvers and services can withstand 100% scrutiny if you anticipate a highly skeptical and resourceful spouse. You may have already established rules like the following with your lover:

1. Use of a separate email address at Yahoo, MSN, etc.
2. Deletion of all emails after they are read.
3. Clearing out your Internet history every day.
4. Use of a separate cell phone for calls and text messages.
5. Instant deletion of all text messages after they are read.
6. Separate credit card for purchases or a strict use of cash for hotels.
7. Out of town lover or meeting away from where people know you.
8. Hiding in plain sight. Having a lover whom your spouse knows.
9. Showing your spouse feigned attention and love.
10. Situational compatibility (Also married and has as much to lose)
11. Destroying hotel receipts in the lobby before you get in the car.
12. Using independent alibi services to explain your movements.

The list can go on and on. Don’t think that your skills are unmatched, however. There are dozens of software programs your spouse can load onto your computer that memorizes key strokes. Even if you delete the email and take out the trash, your key strokes outlining your password and naughty talk is memorized and available for printing by your spouse…oops!

The same is true for text messages. Even after deletion, most back up programs store old messages even after they are deleted on the phone.

Think that hooking up out of town is the only way to do it right? That is the oldest one in the book. Being “anonymous” nowadays is not only difficult it is actually impossible. Video cameras, surveillance and other tactics to follow suspects are available not only to  private investigators, but the general public as well.

However, after years of deceit, your infidelity will create the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back.” It won’t be a leftover text message, an open email, or a scrap of paper with a number on it. You are too careful for that. Your undoing may very well be the internal conflict of a double life. You see, a double life contains a double edged sword.

An affair can be thrilling, passionate and incredibly intoxicating. The very thought of clandestine meetings, brief trysts in unusual places gets the heart beating and the libido in full swing. The chance of getting caught, like a good car chase, adds adrenaline to the system. You and your lover have an INCREDIBLE connection. The passion is 100X better than with your spouse and the sex is off the chart…why?

Because it is pure.

Your affair or the affair you are contemplating has your mind racing at an accelerated pace. Your thinking is clearer in one sense in that you are planning ahead on how NOT to get caught! You’ve thought it through and you’ve established all the contingencies.

Careful people rarely get caught cheating on their spouse. However, like the scene of a crime where nobody is present, there is always a single witness…you.

The emotional baggage of cheating will eventually weigh so heavy upon your back that the damage will spill over into other areas of your life. Like most people, you are too blind to see it today. It is only from talking with other people who have been in your situation that a long term view can be seen. Before you cheat or if you are trying to break from from an affair, it is best to understand why they occur in the first place. Is it because of a lack of sex, caring, understanding, compassion, intimacy, desire or attractiveness? Maybe, but at the core of all those words lies one simple reason.

You have unmet needs. These needs, you feel, cannot be met by your spouse. It may be a need for intellectual stimulation, affirmation of your ego, sexual gratification, or simply an intimate connection that you haven’t felt for a long time.

The idea that any single person can meet all of your needs is folly. Nobody can do that. Whatever need you have that your spouse cannot meet, it will be much cheaper, easier, safer and more honest to develop a strategy to communicate these needs in a non-judgmental, open and almost clinical fashion.

Your spouse may not want to hear that his beer-belly gut disgusts you or that her lack of interest in sex is a major concern of yours. He may not even understand how you just want to be heard once in a while. Whatever needs you are addressing CAN and SHOULD be brought up to your spouse before you have an affair.

Bringing them up may be hurtful. It may even cause arguments or divorce. However, by bringing these issues up now, you WILL be avoiding a MORE hurtful, painful and expensive alternative-the affair. By bringing these issues up now, if you do part ways, at least you can do it without the cloud of shame, guilt, deceit and betrayal hanging over your head.

Learn how to bring up sensitive issues with your spouse. Even letting them know that you have CONSIDERED an affair (but have not stepped out) should be a wake up call to work on the issues of your unmet needs. By bringing these issue into the open, you may also get a list from him/her about their needs.

Are you willing to change?

Can you compromise on some of your needs?

Can the two of you work together on creating the intimacy, connection, lust, affection, respect, sex, rapport and love you once had? Take some time to meditate and write down your inner thoughts, needs and wants. Don’t hold back. Don’t feel ashamed. Be clear and concise. Ask your spouse to do the same.

After you have your lists, make a rule that the discussion of these needs is for the purpose of increasing communication, intimacy and love. Some of the topics may be contrary to the preconceived notion of love, but the sharing of these thoughts always lead to an increase in communication and at least understanding of each other.

Stop touching yourself and get your WIFE to do it!

Dealing with your core issues isn’t easy. Obviously, it is more difficult than simply cheating on your spouse.

However, it will be less painful to deal with your unmet needs now, as opposed to dealing with them in divorce court. For a step by step system to create a sexually-charged relationship with your spouse, visit http://makeyourwifehot.com right now! You can begin enjoying a new sex life as early as tonight!

Are you curious about morning erections? Most men have the experience, with some regularity, of waking up in the morning with an erection. Why is this? Is it nature’s way of preventing you from wetting the bed? Is it a love hangover from that dream with your secretary?

Morning erections, colloquially referred to as “morning wood” and scientifically defined as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) are a healthy and normal physiological response that most many men experience. Waking up with “wood” may be better described as the finale to a sequence of erections during sleep. It is simply the one you remember…unless you had a wet dream.

Men average between three and five erections during a good night sleep. The erections can last from 25 -35 minutes each.

Causes of Morning Erections

It is a common myth that morning erections are caused by a full bladder. This is untrue. (Do you get them during the day before you have to pee?)

Hormone levels seem to rise during sleep and waking up with a hard on is a clear indicator that your testosterone levels are normal.  Your evening erections are also associated with an increase in heart rate. It isn’t known for sure if the erections are a result of the other physiological changes. One guess is that these erections are the bodies way of making sure everything is in good working order.

A challenge in many relationships occur when over-achieving men work 10-12 hours per day and are too exhausted in the evenings to engage in vigorous intercourse. The following morning ‘BING’ you and your johnson are awake and if you are fortunate enough to have a lady next to you, your one-track mind is in full gear.

The challenge may occur because you don’t have the skills in communication or foresight to eliminate morning breath or create a similar response with your girl or didn’t allow enough time to prepare for this inevitable DAILY event! In fact, because of its nearly daily occurrence, many men overlook the golden opportunity they have to use this time to create effortless sex! Here are some simple steps you can take to maximize nature’s Viagra.

Use Your Morning Erections

1. Put some strong mints on the nightstand. Morning breath is a real libido killer. Getting up and brushing your teeth can also work, but by then, you’ll probably go to the bathroom, lose your erection and be back to routine sex. That is not what this post is about!

2. Bathroom breaks. Most women (and men) have to pee first thing in the morning. Training you body to change this routine isn’t very difficult and the methods we suggest nearly always work. A) Reduce fluid intake after 9 PM. This may handicap you guys who need a few drinks to make love to the old lady, but hey, that’s what light switches are for. A better solution is to take the time to make your wife hot! Click here for my step by step guide on transforming your soccer-mom spouse into your private whore. By reducing fluid intake in the evening and eliminating it from 9 PM on, your body will have less of a desire to pee in the early morning. However, a quantity of urine WILL be produced. Which brings us to timing. B) “Accidentally” set your alarm for 4 AM. Nudge the little woman to turn it off, or do it yourself. But be sure to make a bit of noise and turn the lights on. That way she can wake up, also. By both of you peeing around 4 AM, you have cleared the path for another few hours of sleep and “TA DA”…no need to pee.

3. The set up. To really seal the deal on your morning jaunt, have sex in the evening prior and/or at the 4 AM point when you both pee. However, do NOT give your woman an orgasm. By bringing her right to the edge (especially at 4 AM) you will leave her wanting more at 7 AM when your free erection is ready for action. Depending on your stamina, you may hold back yourself.

So, with 3 simple steps, a little preparation and a whole lot of fun, you can transform as many of these wake up call erections into passionate, morning exercise for the both of you!

For more ideas, strategies and tips on creating a passion-filled, lustful relationship with your girl visit http://makeyourwifehot.com today. She may be average, but your mission is to create a sex machine! Go for it!

Saving a marriage begins with your attitude. After you DECIDE to work on it, you have to keep your attitude in the right space. After your decision has been made, give yourself time to learn how to be a couple again. You may have a few uncomfortable moments, but the journey can also be enjoyable. Below are a few thoughts and ideas:

1. If you don’t want to take on something that interests your spouse, and jump in with both feet, you can still ‘share’ your thoughts and let them know you noticed what is important to them.
2. For example, clip an article out of the paper on your husband’s favorite football team, or record a TV appearance by your wife’s favorite actor.  Better yet, read a newspaper article about something that interests your spouse and talk to them about it over dinner.  Ask them questions about what you read and what they know about the topic and watch their face light up.
3. Listen to your spouse talk about their favorite subject or hobby and, instead of shutting them down, try to hear ‘clues’ in what they say about what makes them interested in the subject.
4. Talk to them about what YOU find interesting in the subject.  For example, if your husband belongs to a book club and he always talks about the books he is reading, ask him about his favorite authors or what kinds of books he likes best – mystery, suspense, sci-fi.
5. If you can’t share the interest, at least show your spouse that you respect and honor it.  Register your gourmet cook spouse in a local session with a famous chef or find a website or a recipe you think will interest them.
6. A particularly effective and favorite way to develop a common interest is to look at what interests the both of you now.  Then try to find a common area or a ‘type’ of activity you both like.
7. An example might be if both of you like sports, but you don’t have a sport in common.
8. Perhaps you bowl and you work out at the gym, and your wife runs.  So, you are both in good physical condition and you both like to be active.  Maybe you’d like to take a sailing course together.
9. Eventually, you might even buy a boat if you both like the activity.   But, for right now, start small.
10. 10. If you both like music and there is one kind that you both like, buy tickets to a concert and go see the artist. Don’t wait, don’t talk about it. Just do  it.
11. 11. Or, plan a day in the city to go to a museum that has exhibits you may both like.  Your spouse will gladly walk through the exhibit he does not like, to get to the one he DOES like and you’ll get to time to talk to each other as you wander around.

If his/her interests don’t align with yours, try doing something NEW together that neither of you has tried or experienced before. If you are bored, that means YOU are boring! Take the next boring or peaceful moment and get out of the house. Go somewhere or try a new activity that you wouldn’t ordinarily even think about.

Along the way, you will rediscover the things you love about each other and the things you already have in common.  And together you might just develop some new interests!  Remember, action creates results (negative or positive) and inaction breeds nothing except the reminder of your discontent. If you want to change your situation, change your actions!

My wife was a dull, slightly depressed mom to our children for years. As I entered midlife, I craved MORE action, adventure and excitement. I wanted a hot wife I could party with! At first she thought it was ridiculous, but eventually she not only embraced a full lifestyle, but has lead us to crazy nights, passionate sex and naughty activities that have created great memories for us to share over and over again. For some ideas on THAT click on http://makeyourwifehot.com.

There are as many reasons for divorce, as there are married couples!  However, you might be surprised to learn that one of the most common reasons for divorce is nothing as dramatic as spousal abuse, or drinking or drug addiction.

Many couples just grow apart.  This issue is very common in couples that marry young, and it is easy to understand.  At age eighteen or twenty, a blushing bride or proud groom has barely come adulthood, and is certainly not mature.

Interests and direction are still evolving.  And, when that evolution begins to slow and the couple find themselves in their thirties or forties, they may suddenly discover that they have grown apart.

Though many young couples think that romance will keep them together forever, a solid relationship – one that will last for thirty, forty or fifty years of married life – is based on friendship, common interests and the ability to adapt and grow WITH the inevitable changes that will happen.

If you find yourself in your forties with nothing in common with your spouse, you may feel like strangers.  You may start to become annoyed at the littlest of habits. Perhaps you’ve run out of things to talk about – other than your children – or you find yourself alone on a Saturday afternoon, trying to remember what to say. You may be bored.

This is not to suggest that you must buy a rifle and get to a practice range if your husband is an avid hunter.  Nor should a husband take up gourmet cooking if that is his wife’s hobby.  Though, some really dedicated husbands and wives HAVE taken on the challenge of jumping in with both feet! It is certainly worth a try and there is no damage by giving it a shot.

If you want to give that a try, more power to you!  Just be sure that it doesn’t backfire.  If you decide to acquire a new interest or skill just to please your spouse, be sure you are really committed to this idea or you will end up resenting your spouse for the time and effort you invest. If you take up a similar interest and you find yourself not enjoying, take the non-judgmental approach and admit that is just isn’t for you.

And try not to waste the investment by simply abandoning the activity.  Your spouse will be very happy to know you have taken an interest but, if you drop out without a reason, it will look as though you really didn’t care all that much! I really enjoyed the book from Amy Waterman, “Save My Marriage Today.” In this book she can teach any marriage how to interact in a constructive manner and actually save the “un-saveable” relationship.

In her book you will learn:

• How to get your spouse to change their attitude. (I’ve seen the methods employed in this chapter alone help turn around dozens of marriages)
• Discover the REAL REASON why marriages fail; and what to do about it…
• A simple but powerful psychological trick that will help you to put your mind in a place of happiness and relaxation. Coming from this position will make it a LOT easier to save your marriage.
• The single most important thing that you MUST do in order for love to return to your relationship. You’re probably overlooking it – most people do – but it is easy to remedy and will make all the difference in the world towards bringing the love back into your marriage.
• Discover the truth about trial separations. How to make them work if it is forced upon you and mistakes that most people make that cause them to NOT work.

Visualize a New Future: It’s a year from today (or a lot sooner), and your marriage is so solid and strong that all your friends are remarking how happy you and your partner seem to be. You’ve recovered from the stress you went through last year due to your marriage issues, and you are in a much happier place than you are now. Even better, you know that it would take wild horses to tear you and your spouse apart now.

Today that may sound impossible, but the saying, “It’s cheaper to keep her” wasn’t just talking about finances. The emotional turmoil you avoid is priceless. Click on this link and check out Amy’s book today.