You wouldn’t race a VW bug in the Indy 500 and you wouldn’t drive your Mercedes coupe to pick up wood chips, so why do you think that all of your sex positions are designed for the same feeling? You have a wonderful arsenal of different positions for the three of you (That’s for me, her and us!) Moods, energy levels and a variety of desires can make your sex average to downright earth-shattering if you are in sync with all of the forces in play.
In this series of articles, we will explore a variety of sexual positions, their strengths, weaknesses, when they are best introduced and more importantly I’d like YOUR FEEDBACK on how they work, the pace you took and the results you had when exploring them. Come on…it’s time to share the love!
1. Missionary Of all the positions, guy on top, girl on bottom, this is a standard and favorite for you, her and the couple (Y,H,C). Here’s why: When a man is on top, he can thrust the penis. This is simply the way we were built. It works pretty well and the power, control and penetration is very satisfying for the man. For many women, however, clitoral stimulation is not optimized. Her vaginal stimulation is decent, but the REAL feeling she receives is that of being slammed. When a woman is being dominated (Meant with all due respect, of course) her feminine side is revealed. Women WANT a strong and powerful man to desire them. This need of being with a powerful man means that her offspring have a better chance of being successful. Sorry to make it so anthropological, but at the core of feelings, that is where it comes from.
Your pace and variety will be important here. Men who watch too much porn believe that having sex like a rabbit is the only way to go. If you vary your pace, frequency and rhythm of movement you add some variety to the session and you actually stimulate different nerve endings in yourself and your partner. Go ahead and slam it home like your a jack hammer. Just don’t forget to try a few slow and steady moves to add a little variety.
In order to give her a powerful orgasm with the missionary position, you’ll have to add some clitoral stimulation (over 70% of women orgasm with clitoral stimulation). Here are some ways to do that during sex in the missionary position.
1. Put a pillow under her rear. Get her body to curve upwards. This will bring your penis closer to the roof of her vagina and give you an opportunity to stimulate her G spot. Moreover, you can use your hand or fingers to stimulate the clitoris and bring her to orgasm when she is ready.
2. Get her to assist you. During pre-orgasm, gently glide her hand over to her clitoris to bring her to climax. By making this a true team effort, you’ll both be happier and more satisfied. If she is embarrassed to touch herself in front of you, you may have to take this maneuver in steps.
3. Toy assist. There are cock rings and smaller vibrators than can fit nicely around her clitoral region during sex. Be sure to buy 2 or more of these at a time. Your chances of getting the perfect appliance that works for the two of you is rare. It unlikely that if she already has a toy, that it’ll work for the two of you. Most women who pack a vibrator friend use it while on their back WITHOUT you around. Introducing your body on top when her “friend” is working won’t be the same. With a new position, comes a new appliance. Variety is the SPICE of life!
We’ll cover more positions from now until the holidays. Be sure to check in every day, leave your comments and pick up a copy of my FREE ebook, the 4 minute rolling orgasm by registering on the right side of my blog.
Ah…the elusive “G” spot. What is it? Where is it? What sex positions can we use to maximize stimulation of the “G” spot once we find it? How can I use it to give my wife an orgasm that shakes the world?
Read on and be sure to share this post with her! You definitely can’t accomplish this without some basic understanding the “G” spot, where is located and most importantly, how and WHEN to work it. As with learning anything new, you’re bound to make a few mistakes, but hey…these mistakes are guaranteed to be fun! So, let’s become a master at painting the canvas which is your wife’s beautiful body.
WHERE IS THE G SPOT? The g-spot is a bean-shaped, spongy mass of nerve tissue that resides under the frontal vaginal wall. In order to locate it, make sure she is wet, because you’ll have a harder time if you treat this as a lab experiment instead of an advanced erotic move. Position a pillow under her rear or simply allow her to lay on her back with her hips slightly lifted or propped up. Put a finger inside her vaginal wall towards the front of her body (belly-button side). Reach in as far as you can go, and bend your finger in a “come here” motion. Then slide your finger along the vaginal wall until you find a rough-textured area. The g-spot should feel ridged or nubbly compared to the rest of the vaginal canal and is generally found about 2 inches in, although it can lie pretty much anywhere along the front of the vaginal canal – even as far back as the cervix. It’s really more of an area then an actual “spot.”
Now that you know WHERE it is, what do you do with it? Well, that depends. Some women enjoy g-spot stimulation and some women don’t. Be aware that how much she enjoys it may also depend on where she is in her menstrual cycle. The sex positions we’ll cover here all allow for maximum penetration and depending on how your penis curves, should allow for some stimulation with your penis.
HOW DO I STIMULATE THE G SPOT?
If your penis naturally curves upward, you may have a slight advantage to hitting this area. If you don’t, then any position that maximizes contact with the front of her vaginal wall should work. Woman-on-top-facing-you works well, she can also slightly lean back to take advantage of more front-vaginal contact. The missionary position works well if you prop her hips up, or use a pillow. You can also get some traction if she’s laying on the edge of something and you’re standing on the floor. You may not even need to prop her hips up. By standing, you have more control over the angle as you penetrate her.
If your angle isn’t hitting this spot, keep trying a variety of positions to get the penis towards the top of the vaginal wall. A popular position is the one illustrated below.
If it’s not working for you, put a pillow or two under her rear to lift up her hips. Don’t give up. It takes some couples weeks of experimentation to find out what works for them. If the penile stimulation won’t rock her world, move right over to using your finger or fingers. To manually stimulate the g-spot, you will need to experiment with different pressures and motions. Talk about what works for her. Move your finger(s) in that “come hither” motion works well for most. Because the g-spot is located inside of the vaginal wall, you may need to exert a fair bit of pressure to stimulate it.
You can also try a “tapping” motion to stimulate the “G” spot. Tap the area with your fingers and try varying the speed and firmness of the tapping. Working the area in circles like she teases her hair is another method. Everyone is different so don’t be afraid to try a variety of motions. There is an excellent video on this topic available by clicking here.
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WHEN DO I WORK THE G SPOT?
After you’ve found it and been able to stimulate the “G” spot, it is important to use this powder keg of pleasure judiciously. You probably shouldn’t hit it at every chance you get. If you don’t create some anticipation every once in a while, you will be creating Christmas for her every day.
Not a good plan.
Just as you might get bored of a blow job every morning and sex twice a night, (well maybe it would take a while but eventually you WOULD get bored!) you don’t want to excite the “G” spot at every chance you get. Nor do you want to hit the spot each time you have sex.
As you are beginning your sexual encounter wait for the pre-orgasm cycle of sex before switching positions or changing your penis for your finger. (To understand more of the pre-orgasm cycle, register for your FREE book, “The 4 Minute Orgasm” by filling our your email on the upper right) When she is a minute or two from an orgasm; that is the perfect time to stimulate her “G” spot and send her over the edge. Her orgasm will most likely be uncontrollable and you more likely to get her into a rolling, multiple orgasm rhythm for a while by saving the “G” spot stimulation for the pre-orgasm cycle.
The key is to be patient, creative and open to exploration of your wife’s body. Together you can create “off the chart” sex for the rest of your lives. Start today by reading up on how to understand your woman, and you’ll start to enjoy all the sex and adoration you desire within days! click on the book below…
Making your wife horny is probably easier than you think.
If you don’t have the time or patience to read my book (Big mistake!) or think that flowers and chocolates won’t do the trick, you can always whip out the credit card and do BOTH of you a huge favor.
Get you wife something that will make her feel fabulous, sexy and get her wet. It really doesn’t matter what kind of mood a woman is in or if she’s had a bad day. Your thoughtful gift of love and appreciation can do wonders for her self-esteem and your sex life.
You don’t really have to think about this, do you?
What woman wouldn’t be touched (And want to BE touched) by your selfless act of love? What girl isn’t deeply moved by the fact that her man WANTS her to feel sexy for him? I don’t care how conservative your woman is, deep down inside she wants to feel attractive and when it comes from her man, all the better.
This act of giving works wonders especially if there is any Holiday stress, angst, or even a recent fight. Giving your wife a gift that shows her how much you desire her can move you out of the dog house and into the bedroom with the click of your mouse! Try it! Fire her up and get her wet by clicking here right now.
Admittedly, my wife isn’t even a big shopper. Her primary love language isn’t physical touch, time together, words of affirmation, or gifts…it’s acts of service. (Read “The 5 Love Languages”, it’s a very good insight into how women and men respond to a variety of ways of the expression of love) In fact, she could care less about the diamonds on her hand or the Lexus in her driveway. She is more impressed when I cook her a meal or do the laundry.
Actually, I am very lucky! Some women are more passionate about “keeping up with the Joneses” and have an appreciation for the finer things in life. The bottom line is it doesn’t matter if your wife or girl is a shopper or not because ALL women love being thought of. ANY expression of your thoughts will give her the feeling of love and security that she craves.
Now, don’t go and waste this opportunity for Holiday sex by giving her a blender, chump. If you are going to go all out and get her some nice things, be sure to add a few items that will not only make her feel like the princess she is, but instill in her self-esteem, the vision of her sex appeal to you!
Get her a sexygift card! Click here right now and you can bet she will have a GREAT time window shopping online at a variety of lingerie, oils, toys, and more! Buy her a gift card right now and dont’ wait for Christmas to give it to her, she’ll want to give it to you sooner than that!
Of course, you will BOTH benefit from such a gift of love (Duh!). But the ongoing benefit of lingerie, toys, etc. is that it truly is the gift that keeps on giving.
If you opt for the “Rabbit” vibrator, be sure to get an extra set of batteries. Last time I was out of town, my wife went through two sets of them!
For many men and women it means a forbidden lifestyle of a married couple allowing and encouraging a wife to take on additional sex partners. For many men (I mean a great many) this is a common fantasy.
For most couples, however, the emotional stress and jealousy is too great for a relationship to survive, let alone thrive. Don’t despair if you have the fetish, but not the open relationship with the wife. There are plenty of role play and fantasy games you can enjoy together to simulate the hot wife experience without the emotional baggage of a third player in the bedroom. In fact, the more you understand and manipulate the emotional and psychological triggers of sexuality, the easier it will be to heighten the stimulation of a cuckold relationship without the baggage or frustrations associated with the introduction of a third party.
For those of you who have the confidence and communication of a full-fledged cuckold situation, congratulations. This article is for the rest of us…those who would love the excitement and passion of seeing our wives with a bull, but lack the compatibility for the agreed upon affair.
Exploring the culture in detail, many forums show the man being dominated by his wife. The dominatrix fantasy is a logical extension of the culture. There is nothing embarrassing about this. However, there are more men who simply enjoy the pornographic experience of seeing their wife with another man, who are not into being dominated by their mistress. For most men with this fantasy, it is simply an extension of pornography. Only this time, their wife is in the movie! (Or live show as it were) Every person, no matter who they are, has specific fantasies and scenarios that create sexual stimulation. Some are common, some are not. Some fantasies are called fetishes and can make the average person raise an eyebrow or shake their head in disgust. However, EVERY person has thought about creative sexual techniques or stimulation.
Be grateful if you and/or your partner can discuss it openly and honestly. You are a rare breed.
If you would like to join our group of free-spirited, honest lovers, and your partner is a bit shy, don’t lose hope. There are specific strategies you can use to travel down this path. How far will your fantasies go? Will you be able to turn them into reality? That will ultimately be up to how well you manipulate the conversations, actions and relationship.
Ultimately, the biggest challenge will be how well you manipulate your own mind.
For the majority of couples, however, jealousy, STD’s and emotional challenges prevent most men and women from living out this fantasy. Here are a few ideas to re-create the culture, mood, and excitement of your own, personal and sexually-charged cuckold relationship.
Set the mood for an affair. Creating the right atmosphere is critical in any sexual situation. Candles, music, and atmosphere do more to turn us on then words which are temporary. With the right mood, a couple can become aroused and stay aroused longer. Find out what scents turn your partner on and use them sparingly. If your fantasy takes place in a crowded bar or seedy hotel, go there. Nothing sets the mood and re-creates the fantasy better than a well dressed set. Like James Cameron did for the filming of the Titanic, build the perfect set for your affair. You don’t have to be an Oscar-nominated actor to get in the spirit of things!
Create the PERFECT partner. The fantasy of another man with your wife can be both her fantasy and yours. Chances are one of you may be embarrassed to admit being attracted to another type of person. It’s OK. Nobody can be everything to anyone. So you married a blonde…of course you want an affair with a brunette. Variety is the spice of life! My wife is crazy for accents so find out what country or accent turns your wife on and practices it. The better job you do of recreating her “mystery” lover, the more realistic your fantasy will seem to the both of you.
Be courageous. You are probably experimenting with some new stuff here. Of course you are going to make some mistakes, say the wrong thing or embarrass yourself. Get over it! Practice makes perfect. You are already married and have had embarrassing moments before. Just make them all in private in case one of your fantasies is sex in public places. You’ll want to get that right the first time, just in case it is your last!
Be forgiving of yourself and each other. I am assuming that the hot wife culture appeals to only one of you. (If it appeals to both of you, be safe and smart about your emotions and health) Since this topic is rife with jealousy, be sure to discuss it outside of the bedroom when the time is right. My wife and I had to see a few movies and have some calm discussions about sexuality before she was comfortable bringing our “fantasy man” into the bedroom. In her mind, if the roles were reversed (And they were sometimes!) she wanted to be the #1 girl. I understood completely and always talked up our bi-sexual fantasy girl as the warm up person. Sure, she would play with both of us during intercourse, but I always dismissed her after a while and focused on my wife. The same is true for her fantasy man. Be respectful and forgiving of your partner during this time of discovery.
In conclusion, don’t be embarrassed about the hot wife culture. It is a very common fantasy and one that can be explored safely with the two of you. In fact, there are many advantages to keeping this fantasy a fantasy! With an imaginary playmate there is no uncomfortable moments of Q and A. There is no jealousy. The fantasy person can instantly teleport into and out of our bedroom whenever we want and neither of us can catch an STD!
Wonderful!
If you and your wife are both prepared to take it out of the world of fantasy and into the real world, have plenty of discussions and go ahead and role play it out a few times before you do it for real. Like test pilots flying simulators, you’ll cover some of the issues, but not all of them! For more ideas, strategies and tactics for creating a smokin’ hot wife, visit http://makeyourwifehot.com today!
Of course there is! What about soccer practice, community volunteerism and taking care of aunt Martha? Of course these are important parts of our day to day lives. But what about the sex and money part? How much better would YOUR life be if you could get professional, off-the-chart oral sex from your woman that placed your sexual arousal into the stratosphere?
Before you simply go out and buy “Tickle His Pickle” or “Blow Him Away” (Both excellent books, by the way) you need to understand the psychology and journey to opening up a woman’s mind and her mouth to this experience. Let’s take a look at 2 scenarios:
A. She does not like to give oral to you. It never interested her, she is uncomfortable, she gags, doesn’t like the taste…whatever. You rarely receive and you basically have not had a decent or exceptional blow job in quite some time…maybe never.
B. She loves you, wants to please you and gives it a good effort. The results are satisfactory, but not as good as that 26 year old you had 12 years ago…you remember, don’t you . She was a flight attendant and…
In either case, you may have regulated your sex to 1-3 times per week in the standard positions that please both of you.
Boring.
A. If your gal doesn’t like the act, you have to start off by taking care of a few things yourself, pal. There are physical changes you should try out and a few psychological steps you need to take to get her to not only re-think her desire to go down on you, but take it to the next level and RELISH the thought of going down on you. It is only when she becomes a real fan of the deed that she will become great at it. Here are the some practical tips:
1. Clean your act up. You can try 3 varieties of cleanliness; waxed, shaved or trimmed up. Anyone who has seen any porno knows that women are trimming themselves up more often than not nowadays. It isn’t the 70’s anymore and a clean landscape not only eliminates “nature’s dental floss” for partners, it can actually increase the power of a woman’s orgasm.
For men, a trimmed area not only makes you LOOK bigger, it can be easier for you woman to grease the pole without any abrasive weeds in the way. Try trimming yourself back by about 1/2 to 2/3 of your bush and see what it feels like and how much easier it will be for her to navigate. After you do that, try trimming it ALL off for a week or two. It will definitely be more sensitive to you and it will make her work easier, too. Once you’ve done that and things improve, try a wax job. It hurts like a MF, but an ounce of pain for a pound of pleasure was never so dead on.
2. Be respectful and wash up before you hint at the idea of a BJ. Early in the morning, we know are hormone levels are up and most of us have instant erections, but that doesn’t give you a green light for her to have a sausage for breakfast. Clean up, freshen up and she’ll be more likely to open up to the experience.
3. From a psychological standpoint, there is only one path here. YOU need to give HER a mind blowing experience first. Be a giver, not a taker. The better your skills at turning her on, the more she will feel indebted to return the favor. Asking for a hummer from her before giving cunnilingus to her is the wrong order. The better job you do of giving her an orgasm or two, the more her body and mind will be open to giving you the same feeling.
4. Finally, you should both read up on the subject and practice different tactics to see what your body enjoys most. Giving head may seem natural, but the nuances and specifics escape more women than you realize. Many men like to have other areas of their body fondled during a blow job, some do not. It will take some trial and error on both your parts. Encourage her to try things and above all else, give her feedback! When a particular set of moves works, let her know with a verbal, “Oh yeah” or “That’s perfect”. Likewise, if she tries something that is uncomfortable or painful, try not to react quickly (That could make it worse!). Simply say, “Not so much” or “That doesn’t work for me, sweetie.”
Don’t be afraid to give the gift of love to your wife or girlfriend. The following book, “Blow Him Away” is excellent at understanding the specifics of our bodies. Giving head has never been this interesting to read about! Click here NOW and get your copy today!
If there is any amount of embarrassment or feelings of inadequacy, go ahead and order the companion book, “The Low Down on Going Down.” Written by a speech therapist, nobody understands better the nuances of our mouth, throat and tongue…umm…
A quickie doesn’t hit the same pleasure centers of our brain as soft lights, quiet music and slow seduction. Those environmental triggers cause our romantic qualities to surface. A quickie is designed to attack our base desire to have sex…fast, dangerous and utterly animalistic. A quickie is designed to create an atmosphere of “I have to have you now, I don’t care that we haven’t finished dinner” attitude. This absolute hunger for raw sex is what makes a quickie attractive and effective, but only if you’re doing it right.
Just because the act of sex is quick, doesn’t mean there is no foreplay. Most women (and a few men) need a warm up before going to bat. Foreplay for a quickie is a matter of suggestion, plenty of eye contact and innuendoes of lust and sex. If you want to make her groan and moan as if you’d already spent hours warming her up be sure to follow 3 simple rules:
1. Communication: Women are verbal—sometimes communication can be just as good as foreplay. So whisper in her ear about how hot she looked at the restaurant this evening; how you could barely keep your hands to yourself; how her breasts are perfect and how you can’t wait to feel her, etcetera. Make sure your non-verbal communication is in concert with the words you use and the attitude you bring. Don’t be a leering deviant. Think James Bond. Hold your gaze on her longer than usual.
2. Lubrication: A woman can be turned on and emotionally ready for sex and not have the preparation down south. Be sure to pack a water-based lubricant that washes off easily and doesn’t degrade latex condoms. Having lubricant should be as common as condoms or breath mints. There are obviously convenient carry-on sizes for air travel (A favorite quickie location!) For extra fun, try the new Sex Toy Fun flavored lubricants. With over 57 flavors (No they don’t have ketchup) you’ll be sure to find a few that are pleasing to the palette.
3. Location: If you’re having standing sex, consider the stairwell. Elevators are perfect and depending on your height, a well placed set of books can match things up. If there are no elevated accessories available, holding your lady up and having her wrap her legs around you work well. Depending on your voyeuristic tendencies, you may put a tissue over the security camera or just be sure the quickie is very quick. Perhaps one of the most exciting things about a quickie is location. When you “have to have her” and she obliges, nothing puts a damper on the moment like not having a place to copulate. Being fast is more important than being creative. Locking office doors, pulling the car off the road, or finding seclude sections of a library are all possible…as long as you are respectful when it comes to noise levels.
Enjoy your life, my friend. It is short and your sex life will be shorter, so make the most of it while you can. For more ideas about making your wife hot, creating a sexually-charged relationship, click on http://makeyourwifehot.com today.
In the kama sutrathere are sex positions which are named after Nature: flowers, birds and animals. Some names of the sex positions sound very nice and exotic, some do not. We’ve all heard of Doggy-style. What about a Peacock-style? Or a Swan-style? The very words denote love, beauty and artistic flair.
Time to learn about the birds and the bees….Kama Sutra style!
According to the size of a man’s penis (the lingam), man is divided into three main types: the hare man, the bull man and the horse man. According to the depth of a woman’s vagina (the yoni), a woman can be a female deer, a mare or a female elephant. Thus, there are three equal unions between lovers of corresponding dimensions, and six unequal unions, when the dimensions. Equal unions: hare-deer; bull-mare; horse-elephant. Unequal unions: hare-mare; hare-elephant; bull-deer; bull-elephant; horse-deer; horse-mare. Unequal doesn’t mean they don’t work, it just means more creativity and modification to your position may be necessary to achieve stimulation. Many men are self-conscious if their lingam is below average in length or girth.
Take a few lessons from the Kama Sutra and you’ll realize than even if you have a teeny-weenie, you can create passionate, fulfilling lovemaking with your woman regardless of size.
Of course, we are all looking for stimulating sex, and Kama Sutra positions are surefire way to create the connection you want!. Below you’ll find 17 Kama Sutra sexual poses as translated by Indra Sinha. I do not provide pictures here on this blog, but they will be available to my online members in the very near future. If you want to spice things up in the meantime, click here.
Markata – The Monkey. Lying down position. The woman grasps her ankles and raises high her lotus feet; you strike her to the root, kissing and slapping open-palmed between her breasts: this is Markata (The Monkey) Making monkey noises is optional and only advised after you’ve mastered her coconuts.
Vyomapada – Sky-foot. Lying down position. Your wife lies on the bed, grasps her own feet and draws them up until they reach her hair; you catch her breasts and make love: this is Vyomapada (Sky-foot) This position is especially helpful for extra deep penetration and is strongly recommended for men with less than average sized penis. You probably don’t want to be too proud of your knowledge of this position, but even a man less than 5” can feel like a stud with this!
Kaurma – The Tortoise. The sitting position. Seated, mouth to mouth, arms against arms, thighs against thighs: this is Kaurma (The Tortoise) This position sounds soothing and it is, because it is difficult to realize any serious motion, penetration or movement. I guess that’s why they call it the tortoise!
Mayura – the Peacock. The sitting pose. Seated, the lady raises one foot to point vertically over her head and steadies it with her hands, offering up her yoni for lovemaking: this is Mayura (The Peacock) This is a really great position for creating some special movements in a woman’s vagina. As she raises and lowers those peacock feathers (Her leg) her movements can carry a man’s penis inside her with little effort.
Padma – the Lotus. The sitting position. If, sitting facing her, you grasp her ankles and fasten them like a chain behind your neck, and she grips her toes as you make love, it is the delightful Padma (The Lotus) This is another deep penetration position. While it may lack the thrusting power of the Sky-foot, it is sensual and easier on a less than limber woman than the Sky-foot.
Kirtibandha – the Knot of Fame. The sitting pose. Sitting erect, grip your lover’s waist and pull her on to you, your loins continuously leaping together with a sound like the flapping of elephants’ ears: this is Kirtibandha (The Knot of Fame) Don’t dismiss the sounds of the flapping elephants ears. That smacking sound can be quite stimulating and adds to the excitement. Remember physical+visual+aroma+audio stimulation is the key to a complete experience.
Jaya – Victory. The sitting pose. Kneeling between her thighs, tickle her breasts and under her arms and print deep nailmarks around her nipples: thus Jaya (Victory) is expounded. Of course, making marks is only for women with high pain thresholds. Hey, if she’s given you children, of course she has a higher pain threshold than you. Just be prepared to get some of her nails in your back later!
Dhenuka – The Milch Cow. The rear entry position. She bends well forward and grips the bottom of the bed or her ankles, her buttocks raised high; cup your hands and squeeze her breasts together: this is Dhenuka (The Milch Cow) Like the monkey, be respectful. There should be no fake “milking” of the cow until after she is in post-orgasm stage. Last time I made a joke during sex, we both lost it!
Svanaka – The Dog. The rear entry position. If you mount her like a dog, gripping her waist, and she twists round to gaze into your face, experts in the art of love say it is Svanaka (The Dog) Most men enjoy doggy-style for the pure freedom of entry, penetration and handles. Be sure to ask your wife to turn around occasionally during your thrusts. Pulling her hair is only for advanced lovers.
Hirana – The Deer. The rear entry position. If the lady, eager for love, goes on all fours, humping her back like a doe, and you enjoy her from behind, rutting as though you’d lost all human nature, it is Hirana (The Deer). Since deer don’t make much noise, one can get confused by calling this a variation of the doggy-style. Don’t confuse these styles, and leave the antlers on the wall. They are too sharp to play with safely.
Marjara – The Cat. The rear entry position. If she lies on her stomach and you seize her ankles in one hand, lift them high and make love, tilting her chin back with your other hand, it is Marjara (The Cat) Putting a pillow under her rear can also add to the penetration with this feline frolic. Purring on her part is required, but you have to be good smooth and gentle enough to let it come naturally from her loins.
Aibha – The Elephant. The rear entry position. When your mistress lays breasts, arms and forehead to the carpet, raising her buttocks high, and you guide your penis into her yoni, it is Aibha (The Elephant) For advanced lovers, try tying your elephant down and dominating her. Bondage need not be threatening or painful. The restraints can mimick dominance with empathy. Be gentle (unless she likes it rough).
Hastika – The Elephant. One more rear entry position. You lift her ankles high; she draws up and extends her legs as though she were crawling through the air: this is Hastika (The Elephant). This can also be a deep penetration position. Well endowed men need not apply. For average guys in the 6” range, however, she may feel as though you’ve grown an inch! Now trumpet like an elephant, you stud!
Nagabandha – The Elephant. And one more rear entry position. Lying on her side, facing away, your woman offers you her buttocks and your penis penetrates her: this is Nagabandha (The Elephant) With a side position, she can watch more of the action. Too much doggy style means either you are too rough, too often or you don’t like your woman’s face that much.
Hansabandha – The Swan. Role reversal position. She sits upright upon you, her head thrown back like a rearing mare, bringing her feet together on the bed to one side of your body: this is Hansabandha (The Swan) Before there was cowgirl, there was the swan. I think swan sounds prettier, but reverse cowgirl sounds better than reverse swan. Advantage of the swan is the view of your woman’s bouncing breasts as you make love-yum.
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Hansa-lila – Swan Sport. Role reversal position. If she strides you, facing your feet, brings both her feet up to your thighs, and works her hips frantically, it is known as Hansa-lila (Swan Sport) Swan sport sounds more athletic than reverse swan and if your woman has a nice butt, this is a great visual to enjoy during lovemaking.
Virsha – The Bull. Role reversal position. If you lie flat on your back with legs stretched out and your lover sits astride you, facing away and grasping your feet, it is called Virsha (The Bull) Reverse cowgirl sounds an awful lot like The Bull. Bonus points if she wears cowboy boots and a sexy cowboy hat like Debra Wringer did in Urban Cowboy.
Enjoy the variety of life, ladies and gentlemen. You need not need a variety of lovers to be fulfilled. Your creativity and playfulness can create the erotic stimulation and raw excitement you crave. For more ideas on making your wife hot, visit http://makeyourwifehot.com today!
Focusing on creating a super hot wife; a MILF that you can’t wait to get home to is important. This emphasis on her not only pleases you, but her, as well. In fact, if you’ve read my book how to Make Your Wife Hot, you realize that the key to creating a sexually-charged relationship full of mind-blowing sex with YOUR hot wife depends more on what you think, do and say than nagging her to lose that extra 20 pounds or try on the cat woman outfit.
Guys, it is up to you to LEAD! I hope you understand that your wife, regardless of how long you’ve been married or how unsatisfying your relationship may be, wants to please you. She may be a bitch or cold as ice, but deep down inside she desperately longs to be that sensual, seductress you married so many years ago. This post is dedicated to her. (And you!)
Copy or print this post any way you desire. Your mission is to woo her. Your job is to romance her, your responsibility is to show her you love her. Now comes the fun part….you can also get what YOU want in the process! We have focused on her emotional needs and desire for security in many posts. If you’ve been working on your relationship at all, you know that sex is 90% mental. Let’s now focus on how to get HER to please YOU! Here is a short playbook prepared by my wife. Please share it with your girl…
-By Chris Steponin
I am not a sluty wife, but my husband likes to think I am HIS private concubine. As a marketing professional, I used to be disgusted with his labeling me as his private whore. It was demeaning and cheap.
Once I realized his fantasy had nothing to do with MY self-esteem, I warmed up a little bit. In a few months, I actually ENJOYED being incredibly sensual, sexy and naughty for him. Private whore…hmm…it is definitely a character I have no experience with in my past. Thanks to his balance of respect and desire for eroticism, I now enjoy being the professional, suburban couple in the daytime and a naughty temptress at night! Let’s explore that hunk’s body…
Compared to male body, female body has a greater variety of erogenous zones. Sorry boys. But there is a general misunderstanding by many women that a man’s onlyerogenous zone is located in his pants. This area represents only a small percentage of his erogenous zones which has dozens of hot spots. So let’s “touch” a few of them right now…
His Head: No; the one on his neck
His scalp and ears areas are packed with nerve endings. Many men enjoy having their hair ruffled and stroked. Running your fingers through his hair can be a libido-increasing act. Scalp massage is a stimulating and is a seductive touch to do with your guy. We all enjoy getting our hair washed at the salon. He’s no different. His ears are also hot spots for your tongue, whispers and kisses. Whispering erotic fantasies, slight sucking and playful biting on his earlobe will stimulate necessary blood flow to the area south of the border.
His Chest: Hairy or not here you cum
The chest is one of the sexiest part of a man’s body. Stroking a hairy chest and playing with his nipples is an exciting thing for most women. Circling his areola, gently kissing the nipple and caressing the muscles of his chest can be exciting for both of you. You should also flip your hair onto his chest and drag it slowly down to his now erect manhood. Yeah…that works.
His Back: You’ll be lying on yours soon enough
A man’s back is often overlooked. A strong back is sexy for us, but is also very sensitive for him. Trial and error are part of the deal, here. Kiss it, scratch it, bite it caress it, etc. We all love a good massage on our backs and taking the stress out of his back will release any remaining tension in his body so he can focus on you.
His Butt: Cute, sensitive and spankable
The buttocks and anal region are one of the most intimate and erogenous zones of a man. Slowly running your fingers along his buttocks and teasing his crack may make him squirm and tingle. Stroking and massaging his buttocks before during and after sex is a good way to “double down” on his pleasure. The more combination moves you can come up with, the better. Play with his butt: pinch and slap a little, then snuggle your belly and breasts to his bottoms.
WARNING: Most men are reluctant to ask their lover to play with his anal hole and prostate.. Stimulating this spot can be very pleasurable, especially if you use a top-quality anal lubricant. Fingering his anus requires advanced Tantra techniques and should only be done with plenty of lubricant, training, and a possible bottle of scotch. Be warned, however, that the proper application of these techniques can cause extreme orgasms and euphoria!
Between a Rock and Hard Place
Both men and women have a perineum – an area with highly sensitive skin packed with pleasure receptors, located between the anus and genitals. This region should be touched with extra attention and love. Gentle and careful stimulation by licking and kissing this smooth flesh can provide external stimulation to his prostate and even the root of his cock. Gently push on the perineum like you’re ringing a doorbell, and release. Push – release, and so on. Massage in circular and rhythmic motion for extra benefit.
Good luck. By following some of these ideas, many men (including myself) have actually achieved multiple orgasms. I encourage you to print this out and discuss it with your wife, when the time is right. Try warming her up with a nice dinner, a rose-petal covered bed or a day at the spa. After she reads this, you’ll be banging your smokin’ hot wife until the sun rises the next day.
The internet has replaced our imaginations with stories of intrigue, romance and forbidden sexual encounters with clear an unambiguous imagery. Years ago, naughty stories and movies that left something to the imagination gave all of us a different view of the same scenario.
When people watch movies, they often project themselves into the character. “What would I do if I was them…” and things like that. How often have you expressed anger when a character in a horror movie deliberately walks into that dark house instead of simply going to the neighbors and call the police!
My wife and I enjoy watching porn every once in a while, but what REALLY gets both of us off are detailed stories about things that have happened to us in the past. Embellishing real events brings a reality to the fantasy that can drive anyone wild. Instead of projecting ourselves into a fictional character, my wife and I take TRUE incidents that have happened to us and twist the facts, names, and places around slightly. When we reveal these stories as part of our foreplay, the sparks ignite and we find ourselves totally in the moment. My wife are totally commited to creating crazy, passionate sex life for ourselves and love teaching others how to do the same. Click here for a copy of our book.
Recently, my wife told me a story about a long trip on an airplane years ago when our marriage was on the rocks. Enjoy…
It was going to be a long flight and I wasn’t tired. In fact, I was a bit annoyed, having just left home and totally ticked that my husband didn’t take me to the airport and didn’t even kiss me goodbye…things aren’t so good at home. In fact, I often have visions of leaving him…or killing him!
I checked through the gate without much of a delay and boarded the plane on time. Like most flights, the people around me were a mixed bag…families, singles, young and old. Normally, I get some non-descript ordinary person sitting next to me. I am not one for much conversation and since this was a night flight, I actually PLANNED on not even saying hello to whoever sat next to me.
Then he sits down next to me…OMG.
As much as I tried NOT to pay attention, it was impossible not to stare at the man who sat next to me….Mr. Charm. He was young, handsome, chiseled, strong, firm and a smile that could melt the anger and resentment of anyone.
What a dish. If only…No. I shouldn’t think those things. I should catch some sleep like I planned. As much as I tried to settle in and sleep, I couldn’t. Instantly these crazy, ridiculous fantasies explode into my head. What was wrong with me?! I don’t ever have fantasies about strangers! This is stupid…Close your eyes, Chris. Get some sleep.
It doesn’t work.
He notices I am fitful and starts the conversation with that wry little smile that nearly make me instantly wet. We chat a little and he is so full of life and happiness (unlike Mr. Cynical at home). He flirts a little bit in the conversation, but I brush it off. The more we talk, the more I am captivated by that smile and those tightly toned biceps. Why am I having these thoughts?! It is SO wrong.
How can a 20-something man be so gracious and interested in me? He asks me about my life, my goals and dreams. I have never sat so close to someone with so much…I don’t know…charisma. When he asks a question about me it doesn’t come off as conversational or casual. When he asks, the blue-steel eyes of his seem to pierce right through the normal defenses we put up talking to strangers. The connection is instant and unmistakable. Weird.
I ask him about his home, his life, and what he is doing. I figured he was a personal trainer or beach bum. “Consultant”, he replies. Oh, one of those. “Telling people what they already know and charging them for doing it,” I blurt out loud. He laughs with a burst of happiness, “Exactly! Those non-profits waste so much money and every time I save them a few million here or there, sure I get paid a great fee, but I am also reminded of all the REAL good I am doing! When the Cystic Fibrosis charity reduced their overhead by over $2 million last year, that money went straight into more research. I feel as though I donated $2 million.”
I instantly adored this guy.
When the conversation drew to a close, we seemed to know everything about each other, including little bits of our past. What tantalized me the most was his energy and enthusiasm for the future. He was hypnotic. He was bright. He was…oh…incredibly sexy.
The conversation ended casually and naturally and I thought that I drifted off to sleep. The transition to dreamland was fuzzy because I was STILL in my seat sleeping! Normally when I dream I am in high school and freaking out because I didn’t study for a test. This dream was so real! Maybe it wasn’t a dream at all? Perhaps the 2 cocktails, red-eye flight and connection with this guy put me in a new zone. I have no idea. My head slowly falls onto his shoulder, he doesn’t lift it or shrug it off, but gently turns my head to face his and give me the softest, sweetest kiss in the world.
I don’t resist.
We start making out! Is it a dream or is it real? His hand slides across my thigh and I feel the wetness start to flow inside my body. The kissing becomes more passionate and the breathing a little heavier. We readjust the blanket so my legs slowly slide apart. His hand doesn’t go up my thigh, but he keeps teasing me with his caress. I SO want him to finger me, but he won’t do it.
His kissing stops and he looks into my eyes…No…He looks into my lustful heart, locks onto my eyes, stares, saying nothing, just stares and cracks that dreamy smile. We both want more and don’t know if we should risk a trip to the washroom in back of the plane. My nervousness is mostly subsided because I still don’t know if this is a dream or reality.
We kiss some more and wraps his hand around my waist, pulling me close to his body. The heat and tingle of my inside is screaming for him to touch me. His hand gently glides up my leg and he deftly moves around my panties and stimulates my clit. OMG. This is SO WRONG! Why does it feel SO good? I haven’t had and orgasm in over 3 years! I am about to climax and he stops…I grab his hand and whisper in his ear, “Start what you finished, buster.” He does some double finger stimulation and somehow manages to roll one finger around my clit while pressing on my G spot with another. I shudder, moan softly and have the longest, deepest orgasm of my life. I fear the noises I am making will wake the other passengers or alert the flight attendant. I can’t control myself. The fantasy is real! I am totally into this guy and the feelings he has awakened inside of my heart and my body.
OMG…it rolls into a second orgasm and I want to grab his cock and have him slam it inside of my body. The craving is uncontrollable. As I roll down from the 2nd orgasm, I reach for his package and he holds my hand, kisses my ear and whispers, “This is only for you.” I think to myself, “Well, THAT is for me, too!” and move my hand to his pants. He resists and holds onto my hand, preventing me from unzipping his pants. I read his body language, stop my advance to his love stick and enjoy the afterglow of my double orgasm. His firm strong arm still gently lying across my body, light as a feather, but strong enough to hurl an anvil.
What have I done? Why don’t I feel guilty? Is this a dream or did it really happen? I don’t have feelings of confusion, just curiosity and warmth. The warmth of a chance encounter with a guy who has the body of a Chippendale dancer and a George Clooney smile and charm….Wow.
A few minutes later, I enter that realm of sleep/awake where you don’t know what is real or what isn’t. Did I have a wet dream? Did we actually do it? Did I join the mile high club? My blanket is still on me, I am definitely wet. I turn my head to look at this man and he is asleep…fast asleep. Oh…must have been a dream.
After I relax, adjust myself and start to pick up a magazine, I steal another glance at him and see that half-crooked smile appear across his lips…hmmm.
Making your wife scream comes in two flavors; ecstasy or anger. The gradual climb from pre-orgasm to orgasm or the “I can’t believe you (fill in the blank)”.
Let’s focus on the former.
Many women are often soft and subtle about their vocalization of sex. Maybe you have a moaner or a woman who enjoys sex, but doesn’t shout, scream, or dig her nails into your back. She’s happy, content and even sexually satisfied.
Every once in a while, you just want a freak in bed.
The overall foundation for hitting this level of sex is going to be communication. You must let her KNOW that you love her, respect her and worship her. Failure to let her know this by word, deed, and feelings is a non-starter. A safe and secure household makes all the difference. Be sure to instill that secure feeling daily.
You are not complaining, mind you. You just crave the variety and excitement that you used to have. Below are 3 strategies to rekindle your passion, fill her with unbridled lust, and buying a set of ear plugs for the kids.
1. Set a good example. 90% of porn shows the WOMAN being vocal and writhing in ecstasy as the man proudly satisfies her. The next time you are making love, work on a simultaneous orgasm. Reading her body and her ascension to climax you should be able to work up enough pace, penetration or fantasy to climax at the same time. When you do this, give her a Tarzan yell or scream. By sharing your euphoria vocally, you let her know how good a job SHE did in driving you wild. By doing this during a simultaneous orgasm, your chances of getting her to scream increase.
2. Get her to reveal her deepest, naughtiest fantasy. You may need a bottle of wine or a night with the Chipendales to pull this out of her, but don’t worry, she’s going home with you. The more you can get her to open up her mind, the better chances you have of opening up her vocal chords. Fulfill her fantasy whatever it is. (Unless farm animals are involved) If it involves Bruce from the last bachelorette party, buy her a private dance and get over it. People can visualize fantasies and create physical and chemical reactions in their bodies that are IDENTICAL to the reaction they would have with the real thing. (Example: crying at a movie or reliving a past event)
3. Ask her to scream. Duh. Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best. Let her know that one of YOUR fantasies and/or desires is for your sex lives to be so uncontrollable that she screams bloody murder as you pump her like there is no tomorrow. Simply letting her know what turns you on, may be enough for her to try this “new” thing! As always, variety is the spice of life, so keep being creative.
You wouldn’t race a VW bug in the Indy 500 and you wouldn’t drive your Mercedes coupe to pick up wood chips, so why do you think that all of your sex positions are designed for the same feeling? You have a wonderful arsenal of different positions for the three of you (That’s for me, her and us!) Moods, energy levels and a variety of desires can make your sex average to downright earth-shattering if you are in sync with all of the forces in play.
