Poor Mark Sanford…Just when the media barrage has died down about his midlife crisis, affair and “gone missing” time the ethics committee decide to investigate “ethics” HA!

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Putting the title “ethics” on any governmental body is a joke. There are approximately 450,389,211 jokes about the moral and ethical hypocrisy with politicians (Compared to only 387,789,466 jokes about religious leaders moral quandaries).

Listen, Mark…you messed up. Rule #1 regarding mistresses or affairs is to use the “Godfather” strategy of keeping your friends close but your enemies closer. The Appalachian trail is SOOOO far away from South America. With no back up alibi, you were doomed to be caught (like 99% of all people who delve into infidelity) the moment you didn’t admit you WERE in Argentina. This is why many politicians (including those on ethics panels) only have affairs with interns and secretaries…it makes the alibis so much easier to substantiate. Sadly, your soul mate excuse doesn’t ring true to anybody buy yourself and approximately 2 million men and women in America who are going through a midlife crisis. I guess I am one of the few “free spirits” that understands your conflict.

How does Governor Sanford’s dilemma relate to you?

Are you having an affair?

Do you want to?

Are you getting over one?

During an affair, the excitement, intrigue and even danger of discovery is a intoxicating feeling. Actually, the high people get from an affair lasts longer than normal sex because the preparation for the interludes is rife with thoughts of your steamy liaison and the hiding of your whereabouts adds to your endorphin levels. Having an affair is extra exciting!

Of course, like any drug, the downside can be horrible. The guilt that many people bury can weigh on you like a migraine headache…pounding ceaselessly without any relief.

What makes it worse is the proliferation of dating sites (or hook up sites) that cater to married people! There are some that are blatant and obvious and others that are more subtle and offer articles weighing the pros and cons. If you are experimenting with an open marriage or think that you can handle the guilt along with the excitement of an affair, you may have already gone to sites like…

Europeans have never had as much trouble as the descendants of the Pilgrims here in the states. Having a mistress on the side is not necessarily as common as a Frenchman with bad manners, but it is more widely accepted in many cultures especially among powerful men.

If you are looking for a SAFE and EXCITING respite from your dull marriage or relationship, I have the perfect solution…

Have an affair WITH your girl!

It takes some practice and you will have a few embarrassing moments. Truthfully, it will never be 100% as exciting or thrilling as a real affair. But, if you can achieve 80-90% of the raw feelings during your preparation, role play and trist without the threat of STD’s or divorce, that seems like a good deal to anyone.

For details on creating a powerful affair with your wife or girlfriend, click on my earlier post “Roleplay=Foreplay” and start practicing your South American accent. The life you save will definitely be your own.

One day you wake up and don’t feel in love anymore…yuk.

Do you want to get your wife back? Why? Are you in love? How can that be, chump…I mean if she’s left (Either physically or emotionally) then is that love? Isn’t true love when BOTH parties feel the same way? Isn’t your emotion more out of desperation of loss or being alone than her? How can you love someone who doesn’t love you back?

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Love is pretty confusing, of course. Just when we think we have it all figured out, the world, our relationship, our health or attitude changes. Some people argue and bicker, ever realizing what the true issue is or what outcome they are after during a fight.

What is worse than fighting? What is worse than arguing or being jealous?

Indifference.

This indifference is actually worse than fighting. You see, the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. There are worse things than hate. Hate has emotion attached to it. It isn’t love, but it is an emotion nonetheless. There are strategies to transfer this emotion to a sexually charged evening! (see my post on make up sex…it works!) Get your wife back by thinking, believing and acting in love. It may sound simple, but it is not.

When indifference creeps into your head and heart, you are in serious trouble. Take some reflective time and go back to your past. Recall what you did, who you were and where you were when you felt in love. Go back and recall what circumstances created the thought “I want to spend the rest of my life with her.” Your circumstances may have changed, of course. But that doesn’t mean it is impossible to USE the past to rebuild a new future.

There are no guarantees that your heart or her heart will restore itself to the incredible lust, mystery and passion when you first met, of course. But, by thinking loving thoughts, reminding yourself of the feelings that went with those thoughts and acting “as if” they were all real, you’ve created the perfect storm to revitalize your love and create permanent change in her heart.

This may be the most difficult thing you’ve ever attempted. Getting your wife back isn’t easy, of course. Certainly “falling” in love wasn’t hard. But rekindling the passion, lust and mutual true love between 2 people may be more difficult than curing cancer. When it comes to love, we have more to fear than death, we could lose the chance to live.

Decide. Commit. Act.

After you have closed the escape hatch of an affair, divorce or indifference, face your spouse and commit to acting in love. Commit to doing the things you did naturally when you did feel in love. Once you start to act in love, the chances are much higher that your feelings will follow your actions.

Sometimes we can all use a little help to rekindle that feeling. There are some who claim that the feeling of “love” can’t be controlled….it just is. Well, here’s a clue to help you out if you fall into the trap of “I love my spouse, I’m just not IN love with them.” syndrome. Get a copy of the popular book, “The Magic of Making Up” and learn how thousands of people have taken a hopeless situation and not just survived, but THRIVED with it after a break-up, affair, or a slow drift apart. Click here to order your copy today.

Watch the video below and create some clear, simple and straightforward actions you can take to get your wife back, rekindle your love affair and have a hot wife again.

Passion, living life to its fullest and creating outstanding memories for yourself is not limited to your honeymoon or vacation sex! You have the ability and knowledge to create off-the-chart sex, lust and passion whenever you want! The tools are simple and the path is clear. Make the commitment today, follow the video, read this blog and make your wife hot and your life hotter!

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HA! Who’s not heard that phrase before?

If you’ve been married for more than a few years the odds are pretty good that you’ve either said it, had your spouse say it to you or one of you has thought it without saying it!

What do you DO with information like this? What can you do? What SHOULD you do? It doesn’t matter if you are saying it or hearing it, you cannot go on like this. Time to take some action, champ!

If you are the one who’s saying it; here’s some advice.

Love has several incarnations and even phases in life. The first form of love is those butterflies in your stomach (or bulge in your pants) that make you crazy. You may lose focus on other things, you are giddy, and you basically can’t keep your hands off of each other. “Puppy love” and newlyweds are only separated by age and experience. The feeling of love is intoxicating.

This single characteristic of love, by its very nature, changes over time.

This is not to say that you cannot resurrect those butterflies after 20 years of marriage-you can. However, when it was an effortless act when you first dated, it takes some purposeful thought and habits to keep the love alive.

When someone says, “I love you but I’m not in love with you” your mission is to NOT take it personally. The worst thing you can do is to blame you, your spouse or the economy. The proper response is not to blame, but to take this opportunity to INCREASE your communication, intimacy and chemistry with one another.

Creating feelings of euphoria, excitement and lust are feelings that CAN be created with 1/2 cup of psychology,  2 teaspoons of empathy, a cup of creativity, and a dash of courage.

1. Psychology: Understanding love and “in love” and developing a plan to bring those two ideas together is step one. I will be spending over 1/2 of the time at our Sex Workshop pulling those concepts together in order to increase the quantity and intensity of a couples sexual time together.  I guarantee the day or two you invest in Las Vegas will be worth 100X the investment. Our last workshop was a TOTALLY HOT success. We’ll do another one early in 2010.

2. Empathy: While empathy is an emotion normally reserved for grieving people, I use it here as a specific tool to create or restore a connection between two people. The more you empathize with your spouse, the more you manifest some very important qualities. You open up YOUR heart to his/her desires, pains, frustrations and needs. When you open up to another person-Shazam! They do the same for you! It must be sincere and you must listen more than you talk. That is empathy. It can bring you closer together emotionally and can translate into more intimacy and sex.

3. Creativity: Let’s face it, just because you KNOW how to make her cum, doesn’t mean you need to use that SAME technique the rest of her life! All human beings crave new experiences and discovery. The journey can be just as exciting as the destination (Sometimes MORE exciting!) so get out the porno, velvet handcuffs and play. You may create a few embarrassing moments with your experimentation; so what! You’ve been married for a while, you’ve seen each other naked for years. What’s wrong with spilling the chocolate sauce on her navel, only to realize in the dim lights that it is salsa? Get out the chips and have a party!

4. Courage: Naturally, when a couple has hit a crossroad and realizes their sex live, love and relationship is sliding down, ignoring it won’t make it better. Having the courage to talk-really talk about it and the courage to TRY different things is the main quality you need.

It may hurt to experiment with the dominatrix kit you got for Valentines Day, but it never hurts to talk about your relationship as long as you are open, honest and don’t take any of your spouse’s thoughts personally. Remember, if you aren’t happy, chances are neither is your spouse. You both have some changes to make if you want to be in love again.

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Writing about sex can sometimes just make you horny!

But it wasn’t always that way. For many years (especially when the kids were little) my wife’s energy, enthusiasm and overall sex appeal had just about disappeared.

At the time it seemed like the right thing to do…take a back seat to the kids. They came first and my wife was working 24/7 to raise them with very little sleep. After a few years, we both entered the rut of parenting and resigned ourselves that our sex life was going to be towards the bottom of our “to do” list…way down there, at the bottom…yuk.

I tried being helpful, funny, extra charming, etc. To no avail. My sex life was regulated to a fortunate Sunday morning every week or two. In fact, our kids Sunday school was called, “The Sunday Morning Miracle”

That’s the name I gave to our sex life.

After we had drifted apart sexually, emotionally and even physically, we nearly divorced. It wasn’t until we realized how stupid we both were that we decided to turn on the sex-daily!

Now I know that life, jobs and kids get in the way. But it is similar to the emergency instructions on an airliner which clearly states, “Please put your oxygen mask on FIRST before assisting others.” The reason they do this is simple. If you can’t take care of yourself, then you will be UNABLE to help others.

If Mom and Dad aren’t happy, how can they conceive of raising happy kids?

So if you want to stay married, have a terrific sex life and learn how to not be just the master of your domain, but the master of HER domain, shoot me an email and let me know when you’d like to have the next sex workshop (It’ll be in Vegas-for sure!). You and your wife are invited for an evening of openness, non-judgmental communication and a kick-ass party after we are done with the workshop.

In the meantime, please feel free to preview our book on How to Make Your Wife Hot!

I am no William Hurt, but my wife is definitely as hot as than Kathleen Turner and yesterday, I unknowingly recreated a famous scene from “Body Heat” in my own house! I don’t know how else to convince you, other than to say it again. You are an idiot if you don’t incorporate TIMING into your seduction. It isn’t as simple as coming on too strong or too weak (or both). It is a combination of mood, timing, and patience. The art of seduction, foreplay and teasing is timeless.  Watch the 30 second clip and let me explain a seduction story that happened yesterday…

As guys, we all know about “morning time”… our hormone levels are increased, there is noticeable bulge in the sheets and an incessant urge to pee. Managing our lust and our desire to relieve ourselves is a never-ending battle of “do I pee or should I try to slip Mr. Happy into his favorite spot?”  Yesterday, I opted for plan B and I rate the sex at about a B or B-. Now, I don’t blame her for not being 100%, I was still a little groggy and hadn’t worked out yet, so my own flexibility wasn’t up to par. (Then again, there is not much wrong with mediocre sex…still beats a good day at work!)

As it was a Sunday, we slept in after we were done with sex, got some chores got done, church was attended, and homework was started. The little woman, however, broke routine and had an afternoon shower. The feeling of being clean always tends to make her feel sexy. I was downstairs when I received my first dirty text, “I wish you were in the shower with me,” it read. “Hire 2 Asian courtesans to give you a sponge bath,” was my reply… and our light dirty text exchange that afternoon (yes…even in the same house, we still text really filthy stuff to each other) raised her hormone level and I found myself giving her foreplay without even being in the room. After her shower she came downstairs into my office, closed my door and locked it. (Hmm, I wonder what she wanted?) She sauntered over to my desk and in the most subtle, sweet and innocent manner, she whispered into my ear, “I wanna fuck you.”

Now, Sundays have always been kind of special at the Steponin’s. It is a day of rest, recuperation from the week and everyone has a chance to sleep in. By 2 PM, I was busy writing another article and wasn’t in the mood. As a guy, this normally doesn’t matter, because like you, I can get in the mood about as quickly as congress can pass a spending bill. I was in the writing zone, however, and truthfully, I was on a roll and wanted to finish my article. I didn’t want to break my concentration, so I did what most men wouldn’t do.

I refused her advances.

The difference was, I didn’t refuse and simply send her on her way. I knew she needed a few more orgasms. She is very hot so I elected to help out the best way I know how when I am not around. I simply told her, “Go upstairs, get out your favorite toy and break out the video camera. I want to watch you later.” She giggled and said, “Use my toy? Ok, but your son has the camera and I don’t want to mix up the tapes right now.”

Good idea.

Interestingly, after about 15 minutes, I was done with my article and decided to surprise my wife. I quietly slipped upstairs and tried to open the bedroom door. It was locked of course, so I did something dramatic, blazingly sexy and created a ultra passionate act that cost me around $34.

In one forceful push, I burst into my own bedroom, broke the trim on the door and rushed her. It wasn’t luck that she was about 3 minutes away from an orgasm. I can read her energy even from downstairs. She was hot, horny and didn’t care if I was around or not. She wanted it and my sincere refusal made her want sex even more. Her decision to take care of herself was sealed the second I refused to have sex with her.

My plan to surprise her was spontaneous, violent and passionate.

When I burst into the room, (resembling the scene in Body Heat with Kathleen Turner & William Hurt) breaking the trim and grabbed her legs, she was totally prepared to be banged to the brink of suffering, I knew that the foreplay was complete. She was TOTALLY shocked and instantly came when I entered her.  After the initial shock of breaking our own bedroom door, forcing myself upon her, and her orgasm had subsided, it was time to change pace. We opted for a few kama sutra positions that allowed for deep penetration. One of my favorites is having her lie on the back of the bed with her legs hanging over the edge. I grab her ass, lift it up about 15 degrees above the bed with her legs over my shoulders. This allows for an extra inch of penetration (feels like 2). Hitting her cervix with rapid pumps, her mind reeled and her eyes rolled back as she started up the ladder of her second orgasm.

I love Sundays…

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Schrreeeech! Hold on…Before you start thinking we are talking about passing your wife around at the next bachelor party, let’s get the facts straight.

There are 2 different “sluts”. The first one is the kind of girl that is a sex maniac and sleeps around with almost anyone. The second is the girl who is horny, ready, sensual and oh…did I say HORNY? Right. The difference is the second girl is selective. She may be a smokin’ hot vixen, but doesn’t sleep around. She has found the ONE GUY that she wants and worships and has no desire to go elsewhere. How to make your wife a slut means she will be YOUR SLUT and only for you to enjoy.

This article is going to focus on the second girl (Don’t worry too much if you are into the cuckold fetish of watching your wife bang other men. We’ll address your perverted fantasy another time)

The idea of a woman/wife who has a sex drive that is equal or HIGHER than yours is pretty appealing-right? Imagine if your girl really worshiped you. What would it be like if she couldn’t WAIT to attack you when you got home? What would it feel like if she woke up next to you in the morning, completely horny and said, “I have to have you…now.” Wouldn’t that change your outlook for the day? If you really want to make your wife a slut, you want her to do more than just TALK like that. You’ll probably want her to follow up with some steamy action, too. That is the tricky part.

Read on…

I am going to give you a step by step process for making YOUR wife a sex-crazed slut in the next 10 days. This process may have a few detours and depending on your woman’s background, personal history and  circumstances, you may see her change over in a few days or as long as a few months. Don’t stress about it. The journey to making your wife a slut is nearly as much fun as arriving there!

Creating a wife that worships you, adores you, fantasizes about you and wants to have sex with you in a variety of ways every day is the ultimate goal. You are going to unlock her fetishes, desires, and creativity and you will be increasing your creativity with new positions, toys, places, and ideas on a daily basis. Your sex life will be AMAZING. Her orgasms are going to double and your two will be laughing and playing on a consistent basis. Let’s get started!

Day 1 (Ongoing):
Change Your Attitude. There is virtually NO way to change ‘ol Ms. Frosty into a sex machine without changing YOURSELF first. Women aren’t wired like us, so you’ll have to put down sports illustrated and read a few pages of Cosmopolitan.

Put her on a pedestal. Start doing things that you might have done when you dated. Send her flowers, leave her a love note, call her for no reason, give her a sincere compliment, surprise her with a gift, tell one of her friends how great your wife is, do the dishes, take the kids on a field trip and give her a day of “do nothing”, send her to the spa, give her a foot massage, do the laundry, etc. You get the idea. Start taking ACTION and SPEAKING to her like she is a princess. Nothing will smooth over the “slut training” better than her knowledge that she is adored and respected by you. Being a slut commonly denotes a LACK of respect, so you must let her know how much you respect her now, otherwise, transforming her into a part-time slut will be demeaning.

Do one or any combination of the above mentioned actions on a daily basis. There is no end to this attitude and responsibility. If you want more and naughtier sex, get in the habit of treating her like a princess in public.

Day 2-4 (ongoing):
Communicate like a lady. Unfortunately, when men talk, they seem to go for “solution-mode” rather quickly. “Bob, let me tell you how Stacy messed up at work today.” Your response, “Why don’t you just tell her to stop doing that?”

Wrong answer, Bob.

Your job is not to give her a solution. Your job isn’t to respond AT ALL! Your mission is to listen, shut up, nod your head, and be empathetic. THAT is what women do and THAT is what will increase her trust, connection and security in you.  Without that secure feeling, it is difficult for her to trust you when you ask her to put the blindfold on next Friday! You want a smokin’ hot MILF, right? You are NOT going to get that without changing your tune a bit, Buster!

The first two steps are really like greasing the wheels, priming the pump, or preparing the field for play. Without this preparation, the remaining steps may get you the OPPOSITE reaction that you want.

Day 5-7:
Now that she sees that you listen, you can STRATEGICALLY direct future conversations towards the “slut training” that you desire.  IMMEDIATELY after draw her a bubble bath and give her a foot massage with the candles around the tub, bring out the razor and softly suggest if you can give her a trim (If she still has pubic hair). Her reaction will be one of three responses:

1. No way! I don’t want you and a sharp object near me.
2. Hmmm…I don’t know. That makes me kind of nervous. Why do you want to do that?
3. Wow…I didn’t know it bothered you.
4. Hmmm…sounds delightful.

Response to Answer  1.
If she is dead set against it, brush it off and say, “I was only joking. What I meant was can I pamper you some more? I have an idea…”

Response to Answer 2.
If she is hesitant and/or curious, simply say, “As you probably know, I’ve been really working hard at becoming closer to you. My love for you is boundless and I want to show you more every day that you mean more to me than anything. “(SAY THIS SHIT! Do not filter it. She may laugh, she may not believe you, but deep inside it makes any woman melt with euphoria) Continue by concluding, “I happened to have read in Cosmo that most women feel cleaner, sexier and their orgasms are MUCH more powerful.”

If she is already shaved or wax, SLOWLY introduce something else such as a toy, DVD porn, or slightly kinky idea at the PEAK of her relaxation with you. Naked, calm and sexy is the mood she MUST be in at the time of introducing your 1^st step to “slutdom”.

Day 7-9:
After you have introduced a Brazilian wax job, dildo, or porn into her life, and she learns to appreciate it, you have accomplished 70% of the battle. The remaining 30% may be more difficult at first, but infinitely more exciting.

Tease her to please her. Most men are aroused in a matter of seconds. Most women take longer. The more you date her, romance her and treat her with respect, the more OPEN she will be to the very naughty thoughts that are in your brain! You need to double, triple or quadruple your foreplay time. Even though you and her may be ready for intercourse, the foreplay should turn into role play.

Don’t say a word about this. Simply go down on her for 15 minutes, make out for an extended period of time or if you can’t restrain yourself, during intercourse simply stop…slide down and start giving her cunnilingus. The more you EXTEND foreplay and MAKE HER ANXIOUS the more she will want you and desire you.

These two feelings of being completely open to you and a strong sexual desire are again; key moments to introduce your next perverted thought. At the peak of her excitement, blurt out some naughty sex talk. “You are so hot…I want to fuck you hard.” Or “OMG, you drive me insane…you are a very bad girl and need to be spanked.” You get the idea. The purpose is to say something OUT OF CHARACTER for you.  If you already talk like this, take it up a notch. Don’t DO what you are saying. Speak it and feel her body reaction (or listen to her reaction). The more in-tune you are with her body language, the easier this becomes.

Day 9-10:
Give her a mind-blowing orgasm. If she traditionally comes only once, afterwards cuddle with her and let her know how special she is. In the aftermath of delight, let her know your fantasy. Tell her that you adore her, but one of your fantasies is for her ON OCASSION, to be slutty. Let her know that yes, you love her and ONLY her, but its every guys fantasy to have a nympho in the bedroom and even if she role plays it for you on occasion, you would be eternally grateful.

I have known the most conservative, uptight moms who turn into complete whores in the bedroom. This doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t happen because you are some gigolo porn star. It happens because you have tapped into a woman’s’ core issues:

1. Security. Make her feel secure in herself, her body and in your life.
2. Trust. Let her know that you would never try anything she didn’t want to.
3. Communication. It becomes free and non-judgmental to discuss ANY fantasy.

That is the short version on making your wife a slut. It can take a few days, a week or a few months, but the journey can be fun, sexy and challenging. Enjoy the ride. For more ideas, strategies, and tricks on getting more sex in your life, click on http://makeyourwifehot.com today!

After a few years you may run out of positions to try…sure you’ve found your top 2-3 favorite ones…the ones that are a 100% sure fire hit and get you and your spouse to share in the euphoria.

But what about WHERE you have sex? After you’ve “broken in” the rooms in the house, done it in the car or on the back patio, where can you go to add some spice and ‘ZIP’ in the relationship? Below are a few ideas I gleaned from my personal experience as well as a few other people. (I can’t and WON’T claim having sex in church or near the dumpster…yuk!)

You’ll never run out of places or WAYS to spice up your sex life! We are not talking porn here, just some edgy stuff to give your relationship some new life and vitality. If you don’t keep doing NEW things, someone is likely to get bored and have an affair and/or get divorced. Your sex life and your marriage may be at stake!

Send me YOUR entry as to the most UNUSUAL place you’ve had sex and win a copy of my book-FREE! Send me an email to doug@makeyourwifehot.com or simply post your story or place in the comments section below.

• In a public Jacuzzi with others around.
• In my ex wife’s parent’s basement while they were home!
• In a public park pavilion in daylight.
• In the elevator at a 25 story hotel (quickie)
• In the alley next to a dumpster (empty thank God) behind a nightclub.
• On a trampoline in a college gymnasium.
• On a picnic table outside of an icehouse. People were cheering us on.
• In most of my friends bathrooms during parties.
• In the front seat during road trips (in mustangs, very hard to do).
• In my ex-boyfriend’s parents bed with my husband.
• In a Christmas display in the middle of the shopping mall.
• In the back bed of a ford f350 while being driven down the road.
• In a confessional and behind the altar.
• At an amusement park haunted house with people walking through.
• At a baseball stadium pitcher’s mound (with the pitcher of course!).
• In a jump tower on a military training field.
• At the zoo in front of the monkey cage (after hours).
• In a dentist chair (I worked in a dental office).
• On the 50 yard line at Raven Stadium at night.
• At an ice hockey arena change room in between games.
• At an elementary school in an empty class room.
• On top of a school building during a football game.
• In the ladies room at a law office during business hours.
• In a room full of guests (my girlfriend sitting on my lap and nobody was the wiser).
• In the bathroom stall at parking garage.
• In a park in the bushes next to a playground.
• Under the Rheine main bridge downtown Mannheim.
• On the roof of a high rise after a thunderstorm.
• In a church up by the organ late on a Sunday night.
• On a massage table one hour before the spa opened.
• In the darkroom at a photography lab.
• On the EXACT beach where they filmed “From Here to Eternity” in Hawaii.

Try something new and send an email to stories@makeyourwifehot.com and let me know what new and unusual place you’ve had sex. Winner of the most UNUSUAL place will get a copy of my free book. Any other stories are welcome…all names changed or hidden to protect the guilty!

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My wife is NOT an exhibitionist. This is a wee bit of an obstacle because having her get a little crazy and dirty dancing in public is a bit of a turn on for me. If you are a fan of my blog and/or book, you know that her transformation from frumpy housewife to smokin’ hot MILF was HUGE!

Sex, lies and videotape was a movie starring a young James Spader and I thought it was a decent film. What my  wife and I do has NOTHING to do with that film, but the essence of role playing, videotaping your wife and getting creative is what this article is about.

We are able to turn on the passion at the drop of a hat and have the intimacy and passionate sex that is normally reserved for the movies. This kind of passion is normally reserved for newlyweds, NOT for a couple celebrating their 21st wedding anniversary.

Getting her to dirty dance at night clubs happens every so often. But if we aren’t in the mood to go out or if we are traveling and there are no “anonymous” places we can go (Not being known helps her to get out of her shell) then we sometimes get a little crazy with the camera.

Now, let’s be clear, we don’t do amateur porn or anything. But, once we start to role play a little bit, our imaginations run wild and after a half hour of having her talk in a eastern European accent and slowly fidgeting with her blouse, I get a little hot and bothered. Setting up the video camera and getting her to really heat things up can be SO seductive!

The first time we did this, honestly, I knew she wouldn’t go for the camera thing. I decided it was better to ask for forgiveness than permission, so I hid it behind some books on the table and let it run. I asked her if “Natasha” was available (This is one of our fantasy Eastern European Courtesan characters she likes to bring to our bedroom) and she said, “Da.”

Once Natasha explained how horny she was, I purposely kept the air conditioning off so she could perspire a little bit. The more Natasha breathlessly whispered how hot she was and how turned on she was, I politely asked her to unbutton her blouse and I would get her an ice tea. Actually I brought her a Long Island ice tea and as she became tipsy, her accent slipped a bit, but her sexual arousal did not.

The entire evening lasted about an hour and the videotape lasted only 45 minutes. This wasn’t a bad thing, because the shot was wide angle and I couldn’t see the soft, moist skin of my wife very well, anyway.

After I confessed that I had taped our interview and seduction, my wife laughed and said, “Natasha doesn’t care, only I do.” So, whenever I want to videotape my wife dancing, stripping, or simply record that sexy accent during a seduction scene, I only have to ask for one of our imaginary friends to accomodate us. This not only turns me on to NO END, but it allows for some serious fantasy-time with other women. And yes, I reciprocate with my wife. I have only 2 or 3 accents that I do decent enough to let her fantasies run wild, but that is MORE than enough to keep our marriage fresh, our love alive and our sexual excitement at its peak.

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Governor Sanford, Mel Gibson, and 38 million men in their midlife can’t all be wrong! Midlife crisis (Or midlife transformation if you are a Buddhist or Zen expert) is a temporary situation. Your life isn’t over, but by the time your crisis is, you’ll be three years closer to the grave. Maybe you’ve had thoughts of taking up oil painting or taking up adrenaline-based activities like bungee jumping or  hiring hookers in Panama.

Not sure if you are in a midlife crisis? Have you had thoughts such as:

•You are seriously thinking about “hiring a pro” next time you are in Vegas.
•You recently looked in the mirror and saw your dad.
•Your wife is not appealing to you anymore (and Stacey in accounting definitely is!)
•Your sex drive is waning or you just can’t go as long as you did a few years ago.
•Your wife and you have drifted apart and don’t share the same enthusiasm for life.
•You flirt more than before and/or you have looked at more porn than usual.
•Your midsection is flabby no matter how much you diet or exercise
•You think more about the past than the future.

Hello, chump…you are in a midlife crisis!

A midlife crisis cannot be treated like any problem or challenge previously experienced. There is no article, book, or therapy session that will fix it all today. Going to a fantasy ball camp or going across the country on Harley’s with your friends won’t fix it all by itself either. The journey one must go through is just that-a journey. In order to come out of this phase BETTER, STRONGER and HAPPIER one will need to reflect, grow, and map out their personal journey. Here are 8 tips to help you cry, rejoice or stay miserable:

1. Stop reading stories about success! When a guy in MLC (midlife crisis) reads about some 11 year old learning to fly or some 28 year old billionaire, not only is it an EXTREME exception, it makes us normal guys physically sick. Read about Colonel Sanders or Ray Kroc. These guys didn’t hit their business stride until their MLC was over, and their pecker was gathering dust.

2. Share ALL your perverted thoughts with your spouse. Don’t hold back. Who cares that you “thought” about a three-some when you were in Vegas! Studies have shown that 82% of guys fantasize about it, 17% pull it off, and only 1% talk to their spouses about ANYTHING! Be a contrarian and let her know. That way she won’t be surprised if you leave her for a Peruvian cage dancer. Who knows, she may be one of the 12% of women who will entertain the idea of a three-some! If you want to try to beat these odds, go ahead and read “How to Convince your Wife to Bring Home a Girlfriend” on my blog.

3. Take some time every day to reflect, think, and beat off. Listen, your life may be at a crossroad and you may decide to keep sucking up to your boss and stay with your frumpy wife. Hell, you may even elect not to get a hooker, stay faithful and suck it up, so at least take some amount of time for yourself and be happy for 8-10 minutes!

4. Definitely exercise more. Your MLC isn’t because the world is moving faster than your Nike’s, it is because you have one Florsheim in the grave already. Don’t worry, dude, everybody returns to their youth, and just because you may be wearing diapers in a few years doesn’t mean you can’t have a sexy nurse feed you your oatmeal or leave a good looking corpse. The more you convert your frustration and anxiety into meaningful exercise, the better you will feel. Plus, if you decide to get a divorce your chances of landing a nubile 29 year old with father issues instead of your mom’s friends increases ten-fold.

5. Don’t hire an escort. It is simple psychology, really. You are getting old and your body craves young, fertile females to breed with. If you are married, you run a few risks (Duh!). I shouldn’t have to remind you, but since your brain has relocated 4 inches below your belt, you need a reminder. Your 15 minutes of pleasure will be a temporary escape from the reality of your age. You didn’t REALLY impress her, Chuck. You aren’t REALLY going to marry Julia Roberts like in Pretty Woman. (Unless you look like Richard Gere and have a few million of disposable cash)

6. Cry every once in a while in front of your wife. Go ahead, let go and let it out. When the guys get together, we won’t share THAT information! But when you let your guard down in front of her, she’ll see your vulnerability, get in touch with your sensitive side, and probably give you a hummer. In any case, you’ll win points for sharing and you deserve some kind of reward for that!

7. Find a person or venue to vent…really vent. Of all the things that will make you feel better temporarily (including physical exercise, basket weaving, or blowing stuff up) the ability to talk it out, scream, or just get the crap out of your head is very important. Many of us tend to ponder the same garbage over and over again in our brains. Dumping those thoughts either on paper, to a therapist, or a non-judgemental friend is important. (NOTE: Be sure not to dump TOO much on your buddy, otherwise you may bore him to death as he pretends to care about your garbage. Or worse, he may open up and share how HIS life is even more miserable than yours!)

8. Read a few articles on midlife transformation (Eastern philosophy). The word midlife crisis is used as a Western reference point only. It isn’t really a crisis in the grand scheme of things, after all. You haven’t lost your kids and brothers in a Nazi concentration camp, chump. It’s just that our society has paved the way for you to have SO MUCH free time, that you can actually do something with your life, if you want to. Our great grandfathers were too busy working 90 hours per week to notice they were going to croak at 48. Your situation gives you the gift of a second life. Don’t cry too much about it. You really can take up skeet shooting as a career as long as you’ve socked away a few bucks for the trailer home in Okeechobee.

-Doug Steponin
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